- Jun 7, 2013
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With a recent altercation with my 14 year old DD over the weekend, I am beginning to wonder if it's time for me to let someone else coach her. I have really loved playing softball with my DDs. It is going to be hard to let go.
Trust me, that's my opinion too. It is unfortunately normal for 11 year olds coming out of 5th grade. My DW won't let me physically threaten 11 year old boys so there isn't a lot that I can do.
I never physically threaten the 16yo boys either. That does not mean they don't feel threatened.
There are a lot of Daddies on here who coach 12U ball. I respect that, and I understand.
At some point, probably around 16U, you have to stop coaching them.
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These are very good reasons, but I am going to go the other way...
There is NO REASON to stop coaching your DD UNLESS you are turning her over to a better coach than you are or you are threatening your relationship with her because one of you is not dealing with it well.
Do not do it until you are ABSOLUTELY sure you are passing her off to the right person for her development. And don't hesitate to step back in if it becomes necessary.
She can play for 'someone else' on her High School Team or in her secondary sports. She can guest play for others to experience other coaches. There are plenty of opportunities to 'not play for you' while still playing for you.
My DD has played for others which went well sometimes and not so well other times. Currently I am the AC on her team with a HC who has the experience of taking girls from 14U through college. Are philosophies are very similar and he has roughly the same level of coaching experience as I do. It is a good match for where she and her team is. Very lucky at this very moment...
So, what do you do? Clean your shotguns? Sharpen your knives?