Saturday, the 10U rec team I am coaching had a game. One of the girls was running late and her mother texted me to let me know of the situation. I replied and said okay. It was a 9AM game, so they needed to be there at 8. That involves us leaving the house at 7 for the hour drive, so they had to get up around 6... I had some cranky girls that morning! I was also annoyed because several of them had texted me saying they were going to be late.
If anyone asks, that's part of the reason why I want them to be there an hour early. I really only need them 30 minutes before the game, but I have that hour cushion in case something happens. You say 30 minutes and they'll arrive five minutes before game time.
Anyway, ten minutes before game time and the only girl missing was the one who I mentioned earlier in the post. I had her batting in the middle of the lineup. I needed to make my lineup to turn in and put in the scorebook, so I talked to one of my assistant coaches and said I guess I'll have to move her to the bottom of the order. She arrives as I'm dealing with my scorekeeper and the other team's scorekeeper. Somehow her mother finds out where she's batting, becomes upset that her daughter was batting last, and takes her home! She never even spoke to me about this. I don't know how she found out, if she asked one of the coaches, if one of my coaches read the lineup to the girls and her daughter complained, etc.
I haven't been feeling that great today, so I haven't called the mother to talk to her about the situation. I simply haven't felt like dealing with it. She's a notorious firecracker and I'm sure this will get ugly. Supposedly she said that her daughter would have been batting last regardless of whether or not they were late. That simply wasn't the case. Due to the organization's pitching rules, you can only throw a pitcher 4 innings. Our ace was sick and had been hospitalized, so I had to borrow a pitcher from another team (started my #2, threw her two innings, threw the girl from another team 1 inning, and put my starter back in for 2 more innings before we ran out of time). There is no way I'd bat someone from another team before one of my girls (unless she was not there at the start of the game, then running the risk of reaching her in the batting order and it counting as an out), regardless of how good she is... I'd fear the parental backlash.
Would you have done the same thing? Would you call this mama? I've had a couple of people say that if she couldn't even talk to you at the game then you shouldn't call her... I should wait for her to call me, etc.
If anyone asks, that's part of the reason why I want them to be there an hour early. I really only need them 30 minutes before the game, but I have that hour cushion in case something happens. You say 30 minutes and they'll arrive five minutes before game time.
Anyway, ten minutes before game time and the only girl missing was the one who I mentioned earlier in the post. I had her batting in the middle of the lineup. I needed to make my lineup to turn in and put in the scorebook, so I talked to one of my assistant coaches and said I guess I'll have to move her to the bottom of the order. She arrives as I'm dealing with my scorekeeper and the other team's scorekeeper. Somehow her mother finds out where she's batting, becomes upset that her daughter was batting last, and takes her home! She never even spoke to me about this. I don't know how she found out, if she asked one of the coaches, if one of my coaches read the lineup to the girls and her daughter complained, etc.
I haven't been feeling that great today, so I haven't called the mother to talk to her about the situation. I simply haven't felt like dealing with it. She's a notorious firecracker and I'm sure this will get ugly. Supposedly she said that her daughter would have been batting last regardless of whether or not they were late. That simply wasn't the case. Due to the organization's pitching rules, you can only throw a pitcher 4 innings. Our ace was sick and had been hospitalized, so I had to borrow a pitcher from another team (started my #2, threw her two innings, threw the girl from another team 1 inning, and put my starter back in for 2 more innings before we ran out of time). There is no way I'd bat someone from another team before one of my girls (unless she was not there at the start of the game, then running the risk of reaching her in the batting order and it counting as an out), regardless of how good she is... I'd fear the parental backlash.
Would you have done the same thing? Would you call this mama? I've had a couple of people say that if she couldn't even talk to you at the game then you shouldn't call her... I should wait for her to call me, etc.