- Aug 6, 2013
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Here's the situation;
My DD is almost 13 and has been playing Softball since she was five and allstars at seven Travel since she was Nine.
She decided this fall she would like to help out a local rec ball coach with his 8U team -
It was a great success, Girls loved her and she helped them and along the way she gained a lot of confidence and the joy of volunteering and helping others.
This spring this same coach invited her back to help him coach his 10 year old daughter’s team.
She preferred the younger girls but rely liked the coach – So she went to help him.
The first day helping she was asked by the head coach to work with the pitchers – mind you she was not trying to break the ‘Hello Elbow’ or espousing internal rotation just showing them where they need to stand on the rubber, reminding them they can’t step back to pitch general review of the rules etc.
all of a sudden this dad came out of nowhere and told her im an 'unkind voice' his daughter did not need help.
my dd understood shrugged and left her alone.
From that point on no matter what she tried to show the girls he would butt in and show them a different mor diffacult or less affective way to do it.
My daughter became frustrated with this Dunning Kruger addled fool and just walked away.
When I talked to her on the ride home she was nearly in tears (not a typical state for her) and she was upset that this guy wouldn’t let her help.
From the look of this fellow his skill set had topped out at t-ball.
I don’t begrudge any dad from helping out and I had even asked the Head coach before we agreed to be sure he actually needed the help and to be sure my DD was not taking any of the dad’s opportunity to help. He had insisted he had no volunteers and welcomed my daughters help and knowledge.
She has gone back a couple times but the same thing keeps happening, whatever she was working on he would butt in and "correct" her.
After this she no longer wants to go and help anymore and does not want me to talk to the head coach about it.
What should I do?
Dunning Kruger Effect:Dunning
My DD is almost 13 and has been playing Softball since she was five and allstars at seven Travel since she was Nine.
She decided this fall she would like to help out a local rec ball coach with his 8U team -
It was a great success, Girls loved her and she helped them and along the way she gained a lot of confidence and the joy of volunteering and helping others.
This spring this same coach invited her back to help him coach his 10 year old daughter’s team.
She preferred the younger girls but rely liked the coach – So she went to help him.
The first day helping she was asked by the head coach to work with the pitchers – mind you she was not trying to break the ‘Hello Elbow’ or espousing internal rotation just showing them where they need to stand on the rubber, reminding them they can’t step back to pitch general review of the rules etc.
all of a sudden this dad came out of nowhere and told her im an 'unkind voice' his daughter did not need help.
my dd understood shrugged and left her alone.
From that point on no matter what she tried to show the girls he would butt in and show them a different mor diffacult or less affective way to do it.
My daughter became frustrated with this Dunning Kruger addled fool and just walked away.
When I talked to her on the ride home she was nearly in tears (not a typical state for her) and she was upset that this guy wouldn’t let her help.
From the look of this fellow his skill set had topped out at t-ball.
I don’t begrudge any dad from helping out and I had even asked the Head coach before we agreed to be sure he actually needed the help and to be sure my DD was not taking any of the dad’s opportunity to help. He had insisted he had no volunteers and welcomed my daughters help and knowledge.
She has gone back a couple times but the same thing keeps happening, whatever she was working on he would butt in and "correct" her.
After this she no longer wants to go and help anymore and does not want me to talk to the head coach about it.
What should I do?
Dunning Kruger Effect:Dunning