I wish I could say I have never experienced this, but I have except mine was in 8U. YES 8U. We at the time were a first time travel organization trying to grow and it was a first year 8U team. We had no "name" per say in the community or TB community but we were trying. So we went out and our first year was over .500 and placed second in a few tourney's all the while beating established organization. Fast forward to tryouts for 10U. (as we moved up). 3 out of 10 from that team showed up. WHY you ask, well..as I am told, the parents believed that now they have proved to themselves their daughters are good at TB, it's time to take them to a place with a NAME(after one year). You know...a reputation in state. So they did. So here is how they fair now. Three went to teams that played 136 game seasons as 10U. Well, those three no longer play softball. Even at Rec Level. Another went to a place their mom could be HC and is "loyal" too..whatever that means. Two had to find other teams because of their age difference to my team (they stayed down, no issue about that). Left me with 3 out of 10.
I did a rebuild. We got man handled my first year of 10U. But my core girls bought into my system of giving me time to build. I lost a couple of players because losing and gain four new ones. I am now a second year 12U. I have one player left from my original 8U team and 2 from my original 10U team because even though we got better, some couldn't wait and some it wasn't for them (TB that is). The last three years I have had the same 5 girls as my core and others have come and gone for different reasons. Some had drama among themselves within the parent group. Some got mad at me for one reason or another (I didn't do this, I did that) Some of my core did tryout for other teams..I think the quote was "The grass isn't always greener on the other side." That in itself made me feel better that maybe I was doing something right.
I guess my point is this. I get tired every year. This year has been the hardest yet for me to get rolling with. BUT, when I walked on the gym floor last night for my last practice until January 15th, I looked at all the girls and the smiles they had when they did something great or made a great play, and realized, this is why I do this. Now I am jazzed to get started after the first of the year.
You can't make everyone happy. At the end of the day, you have to look in the mirror and say, "I did the best I could for those girls." If you can say that, be damned what others think.
I know this is a football video but it sums it up quite nicely. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=SUwe-YAI0fY
02Crush, keep fighting the good fight.
I did a rebuild. We got man handled my first year of 10U. But my core girls bought into my system of giving me time to build. I lost a couple of players because losing and gain four new ones. I am now a second year 12U. I have one player left from my original 8U team and 2 from my original 10U team because even though we got better, some couldn't wait and some it wasn't for them (TB that is). The last three years I have had the same 5 girls as my core and others have come and gone for different reasons. Some had drama among themselves within the parent group. Some got mad at me for one reason or another (I didn't do this, I did that) Some of my core did tryout for other teams..I think the quote was "The grass isn't always greener on the other side." That in itself made me feel better that maybe I was doing something right.
I guess my point is this. I get tired every year. This year has been the hardest yet for me to get rolling with. BUT, when I walked on the gym floor last night for my last practice until January 15th, I looked at all the girls and the smiles they had when they did something great or made a great play, and realized, this is why I do this. Now I am jazzed to get started after the first of the year.
You can't make everyone happy. At the end of the day, you have to look in the mirror and say, "I did the best I could for those girls." If you can say that, be damned what others think.
I know this is a football video but it sums it up quite nicely. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=SUwe-YAI0fY
02Crush, keep fighting the good fight.