OK, if you feel the situation is not working out this is actually the perfect time to start looking else where. Fall ball is fast approaching and there are plenty of 10U teams that will be looking for players. I think what Coogans was trying to say is don't burn bridges with the organization just be frank with the coach and whoever the director is that you really want to develop your daughters skills but you simply can't do that because she is not getting any playing time.
The thing is 3 or 4 years from now when that coach is gone and the guy who might have been the second assistant on the team your DD is playing on is the HC now and you are not happy with the other team your DD is playing 14U or it folds you don't want them to say hey isn't that the crazy parent...you want them to say hey I remember them they left to get more playing time somewhere else looks like she has improved and the parents were "good" parents.
The thing is 3 or 4 years from now when that coach is gone and the guy who might have been the second assistant on the team your DD is playing on is the HC now and you are not happy with the other team your DD is playing 14U or it folds you don't want them to say hey isn't that the crazy parent...you want them to say hey I remember them they left to get more playing time somewhere else looks like she has improved and the parents were "good" parents.