- May 25, 2010
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When do you encourage something and when do you stay out of it? We were watching one of those national televised dance competitions and this early 20's women who won it all thanked her mother for making her continue dancing when she fel like quitting at a young age. What if the mother said fine, quit when this girl was young, she would have missed out on pursuing dance which is now her passion and career choice in life. Its not an easy decision.
I know there's a chance I'll wrestle with this issue going forward, but at the end of the day, all I can really do is to give her every opportunity to succeed at whatever she's happiest doing.
Our story: I wasn't going to make our 7yo play softball this past season, but my wife said she had to, that it wasn't her choice.
That was about 6 months ago and as of today, the kid has a greater fire for softball than ever before...played a great rec season, requested pitching lessons, and then jumped at the chance to go to a college softball camp and plans to play up a division next spring.
If I'd forced mom to join me in allowing DD to quit in order to focus on soccer, there is a chance she may have left softball altogether.
Of course, this could all change in the next couple of years, but her mother knew softball was something she really enjoyed and didn't want to see her give it up just because of her previous year's experience, when I held her back for a 3rd year of t-ball/coach pitch instead of appealing to the league to let her play up a division.
I'm always quick to acknowledge that every kid is different, but I've received some outstanding advice from many of the members here on how to effectively manage things moving forward. There will still be bumps in the road and I've still got plenty of mistakes left to make, but thanks to what I've learned here, I feel a lot more confident about how to help my little girl pursue her dream if she does decide to stick with softball over the next 3-5 years.
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