Wow, thanks for all of the different views and advice. A few days have passed and my perspective has changed, somewhat. "Travel team" sounds like a pretty broad term depending on your region. Here, in bfe, the coaches are not paid, each has a daughter on the team (big suprise), none of the girls to my knowledge have private coaching. The closest private coaching is 1 1/2- 2 hrs away. They travel between neighboring counties. They must play in each towns rec or regular league to be able to play in travel league, sort of like all stars. Definitely not a little league world series contender, I don't think they are sanctioned. I definitely know my daughers limitations, she is not a natural athlete. I am not a parent who thinks their child is way better than they actually are. With that said, in this type of team, I think she deserves more playing time. She did not start to regress until after the season started and her playing time has been the same since the start of the season. So that is not the reason she is sitting. We do spend time in the batting cages and practicing at home. But as I said, dd and dh get frustrated with each other. She does better with a good coach. She has also started watching videos on you tube, on her own. We have talked about it and she is going to ask herself to play more and catch. If that is received poorly, we will step in as parents, probably regardless how she is received, more of a follow up and then start a discussion. DD is very shy, somewhat of a wallflower. She will step back if you let her and blend in. Thanks again for all the comments, I basically needed a place to vent without being judged.