I coach a 12U house team -- not rec but not not select.
We played in a tournament of our league teams this weekend and had an unfortunate situation with the boyfriend of my catcher's mom. He doesn't come to many games, but when he does he can be vocal. I had a complaint from another team about him last year but hadn't seen much of him this season.
We had a questionable call in a close game. Umpire ruled that a hard hit ball that appears to hit a runner and change direction had actually hit our fielder. I talked with the ump about it and accepted that he was much closer and that the decision was made. The boyfriend, however, became outraged and verbally abusive toward the Field Ump. Not sure what the trigger was -- it didn't even involve "his" kid. One of my AC's tried to calm him down and he turned on the AC -- telling him he wouldn't be disrespected and challenging him to a fight. He continued to chirp through the rest of the game, which we ended up losing.
As I'm doing my postgame conference with the umps, the fire was reignited. He became loudly and aggressively belligerent with my coaches and the umpires and was yelling "FU" and "SMD" in front of the players and families. I asked that the umpire eject him, which he did. The other team complained to the league (which I totally understand). The UIC had to come over and enforce the ejection.
My dilemma is how to handle moving forward. I am hearing that he is at least verbally and emotionally abusive toward the mom. I don't know if the kid (who is a real gem) is affected. I also don't know if there is any physical abuse.
I do know I don't want him at any more games. My coaches acted appropriately and I'm not afraid to stand behind my own decision, but I don't want to put the mom in a situation where she has to deliver the news or is the only one there when the news is delivered. I don't know how to get to him privately -- I only know his first name.
Any advice on how to deliver the news and manage the relationship with the family and team would be appreciated.
We played in a tournament of our league teams this weekend and had an unfortunate situation with the boyfriend of my catcher's mom. He doesn't come to many games, but when he does he can be vocal. I had a complaint from another team about him last year but hadn't seen much of him this season.
We had a questionable call in a close game. Umpire ruled that a hard hit ball that appears to hit a runner and change direction had actually hit our fielder. I talked with the ump about it and accepted that he was much closer and that the decision was made. The boyfriend, however, became outraged and verbally abusive toward the Field Ump. Not sure what the trigger was -- it didn't even involve "his" kid. One of my AC's tried to calm him down and he turned on the AC -- telling him he wouldn't be disrespected and challenging him to a fight. He continued to chirp through the rest of the game, which we ended up losing.
As I'm doing my postgame conference with the umps, the fire was reignited. He became loudly and aggressively belligerent with my coaches and the umpires and was yelling "FU" and "SMD" in front of the players and families. I asked that the umpire eject him, which he did. The other team complained to the league (which I totally understand). The UIC had to come over and enforce the ejection.
My dilemma is how to handle moving forward. I am hearing that he is at least verbally and emotionally abusive toward the mom. I don't know if the kid (who is a real gem) is affected. I also don't know if there is any physical abuse.
I do know I don't want him at any more games. My coaches acted appropriately and I'm not afraid to stand behind my own decision, but I don't want to put the mom in a situation where she has to deliver the news or is the only one there when the news is delivered. I don't know how to get to him privately -- I only know his first name.
Any advice on how to deliver the news and manage the relationship with the family and team would be appreciated.