- Jan 9, 2015
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Don't ask anyone in the organization for permission. Do what you believe is right. If the girl can give the same commitment to the team and the game then she should have the chance to play.
There is no reason why she can't have a positive influence on your DD, as well. If she is a good kid, she's a good kid....with or without a baby.Hopefully she's more of a cautionary tale for the rest of the girls, and if she somehow has some undue influence on my DD that just means I haven't done my job as a parent very well, IMO.
As a parent I would not be at all concerned about my daughter's being "influenced" by her. Being a parent is SO HARD. I think having a friend dealing with those realities would, if anything, makes them less likely to end up in that situation.
Not only that, it is not a death sentence. One of my best friends ever had her son as a single mom at age 19. It was hard and there were many downsides. But she got through college, raised an amazing person (he's 19 now), and is one of the most smart and successful people I know. It's not ideal to end up in that situation but it also does not have to be the end of a person's life. I'm pretty sure if she could go back, she'd not change it. It made her into who she is today and she's pretty darn amazing.
I am not judging the girl here at all. Sounds like she is a good kid, engaged to her babies father, plans to start a family, great, I truly wish her the best. One thing I don't see in any of these posts are, what about the baby? Like grcsftbll said, "Being a parent is SO HARD." And that is very true. Its tough and you have to give up a lot. I am sure must of you are like me that I have to give up a lot for my daughter to play travel softball. I shouldn't even say a lot, it is more like EVERYTHING. But that's what parents do. We give it all up for our kids and are happy to do so. I don't think anyone is being sexist, or a double standard or any of that. I think most of us can relate to the fact of how can you possibly be a travel softball player and a mom at the same time. They both are full time jobs. If you give to one the other suffers and the other one suffering in this case is a baby. Not saying she should give up softball, I am sure there are rec leagues she can go have a lot of fun in and still play. But being a mom and being there for you baby has to come first. Oh, and the same goes for the dad in this case and more so if the roles were reversed for the dad.