Good read MikeP, nice to see a person take a thoughtful approach to the topic.
Little story,
Years ago had a job where i was the only Female Foreman for an international steel distributor.
A trucker walked into our warehouse and spit chew in the middle of our floor. Walked up and said to me
"Little darlin' got a delivery who's the foreman?"
I responded "thats me"
He said "darlin dont joke around i've got important business here."
I said, well after we get that slip and fall injury off our floor i'll get that order in the que to be offloaded. There are two ahead of you."
He said darlin i aint waiting and i aint moving my rig what now....
And i said
"Either you move your rig
Or little darlin' here will move it for you" and i winked
( trying to keep it light not irritated by the littl darlin part, but he just spit on my clean floor)
He got irritated cuz he couldnt be first ...
Then he said
Well i'd like to see that....
So....
I climbed into the cab of his semi and grinded a few gears while i moved it out of the way.
At some point in our lives hopefully we find being respectful the better choice!
I supervise 300 truck drivers. Let's just say most of them have a different interpretation of "offensive" than I have.