'HONEY you should have had that grounder'

[Rolling Hard]

it's not a matter of what's appropriate to "you."
Sure it is. I won't let you determine what I find appropriate. Funny you mention "beautiful". I sometimes use that derogatory term too.

 

[Rolling Hard]

I guess I'd have to leave my church too! (although i think Whiporee is in Cananda)

on another note

@ANNASDAD: But you don't have to call me darlin', darlin'
You never even called me by my name

It was all I could do to keep from crying. Sometimes it seem so useless to remain.

 

[whiporee]

it's not a matter of what's appropriate to "you."
Sure it is. I won't let you determine what I find appropriate. Funny you mention "beautiful". I sometimes use that derogatory term too.

You shouldn't. It's inappropriate and abusing your position as coach. Whether you mean to or not, you are sexualizing them in a place where they go to escape it.

 

[Tango]

Had a female custodian that called everyone Sug. She would hit you with her broom if you put your feet on her white wall. She hit me a lot as a first year teacher. Loved her.

 

[ANNASDAD]

You're so concerned with doing what you want that you don't care how affects someone else.

You don't know me! Everything I do in life, every single day is for someone else and how it affects them! That's my job, to be a positive example and try to make other people's lives better! We're talking about the word "honey!"

 

[Rolling Hard]

You shouldn't. It's inappropriate and abusing your position as coach. Whether you mean to or not, you are sexualizing them in a place where they go to escape it.

NO, it is whether you choose to interpret me saying sweetheart as sexualizxing them (which I am not). and let me get this right, the reason girls play softball is to escape sexualization???? You are weird.

 

[OsDad]

For people who toss the word snowflake around a lot, some of you sure get your feelings hurt when you hear something you don't like to hear...

You know what we teach our kids when they're little? When someone asks you stop calling them names or putting your hands on them/doing something to them, it's time to stop? You aren't exempt as adults. Stop getting your feelings hurt because the rest of the world doesn't enable you to behave however you want.

 

[jdint]

You don't know me! Everything I do in life, every single day is for someone else and how it affects them! That's my job, to be a positive example and try to make other people's lives better! We're talking about the word "honey!"

Exactly, and people are explaining why it might not be appropriate to use the term "honey." In fact Rad, gave a great example of how it can be used in bad context.

I mean, hell I used to use a lot of terms growing up in Southern Illinois that I would never use now. Things change. You may not like it and you don't have to like it, but at least try to listen to a viewpoint without going all "you're what's wrong with America!"

 

[ANNASDAD]

I could make the argument that if you can't see the difference between an old woman at church calling you honey, and you, as an older man in a position of authority, calling a young girl honey. That possibly you are what's wrong with America.

Now i wouldn't make such an over the top argument, but since you brought it up.

Of course I see the difference, my post is absurd as whiporee pulling his kid off of a team because a coach called her honey! It's up to the parent(s) to properly vet the coach / team / organization before allowing your daughter to play for said team! If there's a say 55 year old coach who checks out and he calls my DD honey......so what?

 

[Rolling Hard]

WOW. You would completely dismiss the concerns your daughter has about the situation? Just boys being boys, huh? Shake it off babe, that's just what guys do.

What you are really telling her is that it is ok for men to speak to her like this. What happens when her boss (you know, because she has to eventually go on to life) tells her, good job sweatheart? Would you tell her, "get over it, and remember, [insert any job request] like he tells you."

Unbelievable.

I would have let her answer my question. Since when does that bother you?
Oh and BTW there is a difference in youth softball and the workplace. But if my adult daughter told me her boss calls her sweetheart, I would ask her does he call all the females sweetheart? It is just a word and does not necessarily and most likely not a sexual term. If it bugs you that much, tell him so or go get another job.