I don't post here much but have been following along for years. I enjoy keeping up with topics and people and all of the colorful characters on this board. I would say I even draw strength and comfort hearing that many of you are going through the same things we are in our house. This is weighing heavily on my mind this weekend so I just wanted to share.
When you send your DD off to college to play softball make sure both she and you are prepared for heartbreak. As a parent, your heart breaks for your kid when she has done everything the "right" way and works harder than anyone and her best still isn't a good enough. As parents, we know that the end goal is a good education. Our girls should understand that too. But, don't kid yourself- the softball is the dream. For my DD, it doesn't matter that she has the highest GPA on the team with two majors, is respected by her coaches and teammates as having high character, and is respected by her professors- she wants that starting spot. It's heartbreaking, period. I know as a logical adult that the lessons she learns now will carry her far. I believe she has a great future in front of her, but right now my heart is still breaking.
I know there are others out there like me who don't always share their stories because most of what gets posted here is about great success- don't get me wrong- I love reading those. However, I needed to share this for myself.
I'll leave this by saying I believe the mental part of the game is the most important. I've always believed this and the struggles my DD is facing confirms that. Unfortunately, the most important part is the hardest to teach. Some of it comes down to personality. I want my DD to get meaner- but that's not the way she's wired. We've told her there is a long ways until season starts, but the writing is on the wall- will she be able to rise to the occasion- I hope so.
Thanks for listening.
When you send your DD off to college to play softball make sure both she and you are prepared for heartbreak. As a parent, your heart breaks for your kid when she has done everything the "right" way and works harder than anyone and her best still isn't a good enough. As parents, we know that the end goal is a good education. Our girls should understand that too. But, don't kid yourself- the softball is the dream. For my DD, it doesn't matter that she has the highest GPA on the team with two majors, is respected by her coaches and teammates as having high character, and is respected by her professors- she wants that starting spot. It's heartbreaking, period. I know as a logical adult that the lessons she learns now will carry her far. I believe she has a great future in front of her, but right now my heart is still breaking.
I know there are others out there like me who don't always share their stories because most of what gets posted here is about great success- don't get me wrong- I love reading those. However, I needed to share this for myself.
I'll leave this by saying I believe the mental part of the game is the most important. I've always believed this and the struggles my DD is facing confirms that. Unfortunately, the most important part is the hardest to teach. Some of it comes down to personality. I want my DD to get meaner- but that's not the way she's wired. We've told her there is a long ways until season starts, but the writing is on the wall- will she be able to rise to the occasion- I hope so.
Thanks for listening.
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