- Dec 15, 2009
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fall ball around here is relaxing. its a laid back atmosphere. a chance to learn new skills and postions or improve on your skills. I was asked to play 14 & under or 18 & under. i couldn't play both because the games, which are double headers, would be the same day and times.
I wanted to develop as a pitcher over this fall ball season and the 14 & under would give me a lot more pitching opportunities and i wanted to play for that coach more than anything. he's by far my favorite coach.
the first day of practice went great. we were getting back into the swing of things.
the second day of practice wasn't so great. A girl that doesn't like me, nor do i like her, showed up. she has a bad reputation, hates me, hates athourity, hates that i'm the captain, and was banned from school affiliated activities at 11 years old. she's now 15. the coach didn't know much about her.
during drink breaks i talked to my mom. we both agreed that we didn't want me playing with her. i know the season isn't long but we can't even be around each other for 5 mins. The coach noticed my tension and my mom and i whispering and talking to the side a lot. he asked if something was wrong. i asked if the girl was on the team. he said yes. i said ok and went off to practice. while i was practicing he talked to my mom and asked what was wrong. my mom explained the situation and how we hated doing this to him, but we'd gladly leave without a word. during the next break my mom said about calling to see if the 18 & under team would take me. i knew they were struggling to find players so i told her not to call because maybe we can work something out here. Against my request, she called the 18 & under coaches and explained the situation. they were happy to take me. by the end of the practice, the little insignificant news was spread aroud the whole county.
at the end of the practice we talked to the 14 & under coach. after we told him bits of her history he remembered exactly who she was. he said i was on the team for the right reasons and she wasnt. He'd be glad to tell her she isn't able to play and would tell her that since she isn't ASA certified it wouldn't work out becuase until she got certified, the season would be over. Then i could stay.
When i got home we talked to my dad. i had 3 options. play both games at the 14 & udner level, play both games at the 18 & under level, or play one game at each level. my dad said what i knew was the right thing to do. he said "the coach is going through all of this for you. he wants you to play. you need to stick by him." our family agreed that i would play both games at the 14 & under level and if for some reason we didn't have a game, i would gladly help out with the 18 & under level. Then the phone rang. it was the 18 & under coach. He asked what the decision was. My mom told him i was staying with the 14 & under level. if my mom didn't call them until we were sure it wouldn't work out at the 14 & under level, we wouldn't have gotten their hopes up and crushed them. the whole night, the phone was ringing with people from all over asking what my decision was.
I found out that one of my younger teammates on the 14 & under team looks up to me. I have inspired her. She's trying out for the tournament organization i play for and if i went up to the 18 & under level, she would go up too. she wants to be where i am. I'm completely flattered by that. I didn't realize it until i went to sleep that night, i am completely happy with my decision.
what would you have done if you or your DD was put into this situation? What would you advise your DD to do? What would you have done if she wanted to do the opposite of what you wanted her to do?
I wanted to develop as a pitcher over this fall ball season and the 14 & under would give me a lot more pitching opportunities and i wanted to play for that coach more than anything. he's by far my favorite coach.
the first day of practice went great. we were getting back into the swing of things.
the second day of practice wasn't so great. A girl that doesn't like me, nor do i like her, showed up. she has a bad reputation, hates me, hates athourity, hates that i'm the captain, and was banned from school affiliated activities at 11 years old. she's now 15. the coach didn't know much about her.
during drink breaks i talked to my mom. we both agreed that we didn't want me playing with her. i know the season isn't long but we can't even be around each other for 5 mins. The coach noticed my tension and my mom and i whispering and talking to the side a lot. he asked if something was wrong. i asked if the girl was on the team. he said yes. i said ok and went off to practice. while i was practicing he talked to my mom and asked what was wrong. my mom explained the situation and how we hated doing this to him, but we'd gladly leave without a word. during the next break my mom said about calling to see if the 18 & under team would take me. i knew they were struggling to find players so i told her not to call because maybe we can work something out here. Against my request, she called the 18 & under coaches and explained the situation. they were happy to take me. by the end of the practice, the little insignificant news was spread aroud the whole county.
at the end of the practice we talked to the 14 & under coach. after we told him bits of her history he remembered exactly who she was. he said i was on the team for the right reasons and she wasnt. He'd be glad to tell her she isn't able to play and would tell her that since she isn't ASA certified it wouldn't work out becuase until she got certified, the season would be over. Then i could stay.
When i got home we talked to my dad. i had 3 options. play both games at the 14 & udner level, play both games at the 18 & under level, or play one game at each level. my dad said what i knew was the right thing to do. he said "the coach is going through all of this for you. he wants you to play. you need to stick by him." our family agreed that i would play both games at the 14 & under level and if for some reason we didn't have a game, i would gladly help out with the 18 & under level. Then the phone rang. it was the 18 & under coach. He asked what the decision was. My mom told him i was staying with the 14 & under level. if my mom didn't call them until we were sure it wouldn't work out at the 14 & under level, we wouldn't have gotten their hopes up and crushed them. the whole night, the phone was ringing with people from all over asking what my decision was.
I found out that one of my younger teammates on the 14 & under team looks up to me. I have inspired her. She's trying out for the tournament organization i play for and if i went up to the 18 & under level, she would go up too. she wants to be where i am. I'm completely flattered by that. I didn't realize it until i went to sleep that night, i am completely happy with my decision.
what would you have done if you or your DD was put into this situation? What would you advise your DD to do? What would you have done if she wanted to do the opposite of what you wanted her to do?