Where was your #3 pitcher? Or did a team with a HC dd and an AC dd as 1 and 2 not need one all year?
You win as a team and you lose as a team, including the coaches who didn't have an option to go to when 1 and 2 broke down. Berating is never good, ever. I'm not perfect, I've lost my cool on a team or two, but I knew I was wrong right away.
+1 on this.... 11 more runs would have made the 12 let in ok as well.... your entire team failed to put more runs up than the other team... not the pitchers having a bad day. I can't imagine singling out a girl for a loss at any level of play.