You read it right. No announcement was made for over a week, but i had spoken with them so was sure DD had made the team. Was able to find out they were trying to carry too many girls on the team. Maybe 13 or 14. even if DD played a lot, there would be some unhappy folks with that many. They have to play to get better.
Committing to a team
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You read it right. No announcement was made for over a week, but i had spoken with them so was sure DD had made the team. Was able to find out they were trying to carry too many girls on the team. Maybe 13 or 14. even if DD played a lot, there would be some unhappy folks with that many. They have to play to get better.
My first year as a coach, I took everything personal. I learned very quickly how the world of travel softball works. Now my first word of advice for anyone during this time of the year, "don't take things personal, it's just softball." You've made your decision, make the best of it. Nothing good will come from worrying about the past.
We played on a team (B level) with 14-15 girls for two years. My daughter never sat an inning and it tore me up watching the bottom 8 get rotated through two outfield spots. Was extremely stressful to be on the sidelines watching the inevitable explosions.
We moved on to another local team last year (C level) because I (not my DD) couldn't take another year of the stress.
This year, my daughter has accepted a spot on a new team (A level!) because last year was an escape valve for me... This year is for her.
Moving teams is very, very stressful for us hypersensitive pansy Dads. But it's late August when hope blooms eternal and the honeymoon is just beginning!
But it's late August when hope blooms eternal and the honeymoon is just beginning!
Great line!
We played on a team (B level) with 14-15 girls for two years. My daughter never sat an inning and it tore me up watching the bottom 8 get rotated through two outfield spots. Was extremely stressful to be on the sidelines watching the inevitable explosions.
We moved on to another local team last year (C level) because I (not my DD) couldn't take another year of the stress.
This year, my daughter has accepted a spot on a new team (A level!) because last year was an escape valve for me... This year is for her.
Moving teams is very, very stressful for us hypersensitive pansy Dads. But it's late August when hope blooms eternal and the honeymoon is just beginning!
was on the end of the spectrum where DD would sit 3 of 4 games in a weekend. Not going back. Very honest about my DD abilities. Have actually had friends tell me to give her more credit. Don't think i could see girls sit that much even when mine is playing. I know you get better in practice, not games, but the playing time in games is a great reward. DD has come a long way talent wise. Now if i can get her more aggressive, she will see that the game can be even more fun. Thanks for all the input.
Funny how much we as a parent can stress over a decision regarding a child's game. And NOPE. You are not the only one that stresses over such things. I had to do the exact same thing when DD was first year 12U. She had played for a coach that I really like as a person. He had a different philosphy towards winning. He started the org as a feeder team for the local high school. He did not care about winning at all. I understand that (now) it really isn't that important to win at 10u ages, but it would be nice to win some times. We tried out for a different local org (mudrunners team I believe) that always has some good teams, and DD got offered a spot. I DREADED making the phone call to the coach to tell him we were leaving. Delayed it for a few days until I could get the balls to make the call. Stressed over it just like you. In the end, it wasn't that big of a deal, and coach was totally cool about it. He actually told me that he appreciated the honestly and the fact that he could tell that I was nervous about telling him. In the end, we have to do what is best for our family, and most coaches totally get it.
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Finding a team is very stressful for parents, not just the hypersensitive ones either. You never know what you're getting into until it's too late, for better or worse.
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I'm glad you moved your dd out of that situation! On our 1st team, coach had a tradition of sitting my dd the entire 1st game of every tournament (she sat alot in other games as well).
The next yr I moved her to a different team which practiced less than our original team but she played the majority of the time. The increased playing time and confidence/positivity of her coaches helped her develop leaps and bounds.
So yes, practice is important but game time is where it becomes reality.
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Playing games is also the fun part. Nobody plays a sport because they just want to practice.
