I would really love some objective opinions
My daughter is an '02 practicing with a new 10U team and they will be playing in a couple tournaments prior to official tryouts. She has been playing travel sb for about 2 years total now and I am worried that maybe I am setting her up for disappointment. I will try to keep this as short as possible.
About a year ago she had to try out for the 10u team that she had already been playing on for 6 months as they were "restructuring" the team. She was cut from the 10u team and the coach explained it was because he wanted to have her to start a new 8u team and she was still young enough to play 8u. Still not sure if that was just an excuse or not. The coach tried but the 8u team never took off, so because my daughter said she still wanted to play I took her to tryout for a different 10u team. She did not make that team as it was primarily '01 with some 00's. The coach said he was impressed with her and wanted to see us again in January tryouts when the 00's would be moving up. It was a positive experience for both me and my daughter.
At this point she was going to start rec so there was no urgency to find another team. Then we found out that a local team close to home was forming with primarily '02's, so we contacted them and they invited us to come out to the "workouts". That is where we are now. When it started they asked what position my daughter played and I told her primarily 2nd but she was taking pitching lessons and she played right field with the older travel team she was on prior. I explained that my daughter would play wherever she was told without any complaints. Now it seems like she is not getting any infield time at practices and at the last scrimmage she sat out two innings, played right field two innings and played 2nd once. Now that we are practicing for the second scrimmage she didn't get any infield practice. What do I tell my daughter when she asks me why she was one of the only ones who didn't get any infield time? My fear is that the coach doesn't think she is good enough even though "I" think she measures up to the other girls. I am starting to think that maybe i am one of "those" parents that thinks their kids is better than they really are. She has got a great glove, a good bat, but maybe not as quick on her feet as some would like---100% heart and work ethic is what I hear all the time. I got paranoid last night that maybe i was setting her up for disappointment when it comes to trying out for this team. I don't want to keep putting her out there to get rejected everytime. I am not saying that I force her to be there because it is completely her choice in the end and she loves the game.
I keep questioning whether I should reach out to the coach. I don't want to step on her toes and I don't want to put my daugther at a disadvantage because I am the parent that bothers the coach about playing time and stuff. From a coaches perspective how should a parent act in this type of situation? Should i ask the coach how she thinks my daughter is doing? What would you so if this was your daughter? Would you just leave it all alone? Am I thinking about it too much? I think at this point i am just trying to protect her somewhat.
Sorry for the lengthy post but i really wanted to put it all out there so you could see where i was coming from.
My daughter is an '02 practicing with a new 10U team and they will be playing in a couple tournaments prior to official tryouts. She has been playing travel sb for about 2 years total now and I am worried that maybe I am setting her up for disappointment. I will try to keep this as short as possible.
About a year ago she had to try out for the 10u team that she had already been playing on for 6 months as they were "restructuring" the team. She was cut from the 10u team and the coach explained it was because he wanted to have her to start a new 8u team and she was still young enough to play 8u. Still not sure if that was just an excuse or not. The coach tried but the 8u team never took off, so because my daughter said she still wanted to play I took her to tryout for a different 10u team. She did not make that team as it was primarily '01 with some 00's. The coach said he was impressed with her and wanted to see us again in January tryouts when the 00's would be moving up. It was a positive experience for both me and my daughter.
At this point she was going to start rec so there was no urgency to find another team. Then we found out that a local team close to home was forming with primarily '02's, so we contacted them and they invited us to come out to the "workouts". That is where we are now. When it started they asked what position my daughter played and I told her primarily 2nd but she was taking pitching lessons and she played right field with the older travel team she was on prior. I explained that my daughter would play wherever she was told without any complaints. Now it seems like she is not getting any infield time at practices and at the last scrimmage she sat out two innings, played right field two innings and played 2nd once. Now that we are practicing for the second scrimmage she didn't get any infield practice. What do I tell my daughter when she asks me why she was one of the only ones who didn't get any infield time? My fear is that the coach doesn't think she is good enough even though "I" think she measures up to the other girls. I am starting to think that maybe i am one of "those" parents that thinks their kids is better than they really are. She has got a great glove, a good bat, but maybe not as quick on her feet as some would like---100% heart and work ethic is what I hear all the time. I got paranoid last night that maybe i was setting her up for disappointment when it comes to trying out for this team. I don't want to keep putting her out there to get rejected everytime. I am not saying that I force her to be there because it is completely her choice in the end and she loves the game.
I keep questioning whether I should reach out to the coach. I don't want to step on her toes and I don't want to put my daugther at a disadvantage because I am the parent that bothers the coach about playing time and stuff. From a coaches perspective how should a parent act in this type of situation? Should i ask the coach how she thinks my daughter is doing? What would you so if this was your daughter? Would you just leave it all alone? Am I thinking about it too much? I think at this point i am just trying to protect her somewhat.
Sorry for the lengthy post but i really wanted to put it all out there so you could see where i was coming from.