- Oct 27, 2009
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My DD made Varsity last year as a freshman and upperclassmen did not welcome her. My DD was the only freshman along with only one sophomore to make Varsity. She was a starter pretty much all year at an alternative position (outfield) she normally is the starting catcher for her travel team, however her high school starting catcher is two years her senior and local All Area Player of the Year and her travel team won a national championship. DD accepted the fact that it is this other girls time and she will have to bide her time until other girl graduates out, so it's outfield for now and she understands this. DD batted third in the order pretty much all year and finished in the top two or three in hitting on the team that won regionals in one of the toughest areas of the entire state.
I think this all was part and parcel of why she had the troubles with the upperclassmen because my daughter burst on the scene and outshined these older girls and they got their noses bent out of shape and started treating my DD as an outcast, rarely talked to her at practices, bus rides, etc. etc. instead of treating her like an asset. There was a point where my DD just started to shut down because of this, nobody likes feeling like an outcast. It got so bad she wanted to quit. Her coach even approached my wife about DD acting as if DD had no desire to even be there. My wife informed him that DD was shutting down as a result of the treatment. He assured DW that he would get to the bottom of it but nothing really lasting took place.
Now with team meeting for softball players at our doorstep my DD broke down in tears this evening and was saying she didn't want to tryout for high school because nothing has really changed with these upperclassmen in her interactions during conditioning in the off season leading up to tryouts in a little over a month.
My question is this, what can I do as a parent to help my DD to get through this? Thoughts, suggestions, or do I stay out of it and let her work through this? What can I say or do to my DD to help her get through this? Anyone been through this before with you DD and what did you do to help her get through it? Any thoughts and/or suggestions are welcome.
I think this all was part and parcel of why she had the troubles with the upperclassmen because my daughter burst on the scene and outshined these older girls and they got their noses bent out of shape and started treating my DD as an outcast, rarely talked to her at practices, bus rides, etc. etc. instead of treating her like an asset. There was a point where my DD just started to shut down because of this, nobody likes feeling like an outcast. It got so bad she wanted to quit. Her coach even approached my wife about DD acting as if DD had no desire to even be there. My wife informed him that DD was shutting down as a result of the treatment. He assured DW that he would get to the bottom of it but nothing really lasting took place.
Now with team meeting for softball players at our doorstep my DD broke down in tears this evening and was saying she didn't want to tryout for high school because nothing has really changed with these upperclassmen in her interactions during conditioning in the off season leading up to tryouts in a little over a month.
My question is this, what can I do as a parent to help my DD to get through this? Thoughts, suggestions, or do I stay out of it and let her work through this? What can I say or do to my DD to help her get through this? Anyone been through this before with you DD and what did you do to help her get through it? Any thoughts and/or suggestions are welcome.
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