Coach James,
First of all, I know what you are going through. Yes, this sport is about our DD's, but it becomes such a part of our lives as well. It provides an opportunity to spend time with them, to watch them grow, etc. It truly is a wonderful experience for those involved. Regardless what others say, it is a portion of your lives together that is apparently about to change. Nothing wrong with having feelings about that. If this does become her decision, then hopefully you will be able to find other ways to spend time together and remain close.
As I read through the other posts, there are really two things that come to my mind;
1) Travel ball is a huge commitment. One of my daughter's best friends played on DDs travel ball team for 2 years before quitting. She was just tired of waking up early, being driven to a field for a 7 am warm up, playing several games, and not getting home until 9 pm. And then do that weekend after weekend all summer long. Honestly, I enjoy it, but after typing it I think wtf is wrong with me
Maybe this is the point your DD has come to. This particular girl has also chosen to play high school ball. It wasn't the sport she was tired of. It was the intense commitment - all summer long.
2) Maybe the whole thing has become overkill. I remember a recent thread showing your hitting cage. Very nice setup by the way. But maybe softball is something that she simply can't get away from. 2 years ago, my DD seemed to be getting tired of softball. What I learned is that it was not the sport, but the fact that she couldn't get away from it. At the time I was a coach, team administrator, treasurer, hitting coach, etc., etc. There was something softball related going on virtually every day year round. She got to the point that she just wanted a break and didn't want softball to be EVERYTHING.... Once I learned that, I made it a point to do all of my other softball related responsibilities when she is out, sleeping, etc. We don't talk about softball very often unless she opens the discussion. Obviously there are times I need to discuss things with her, but she is much more in charge of the process now then 2 years ago. As a result, she seems much happier, and therefore I am much happier.
Sorry for rambling... give it some time. Maybe she will change her mind again. Either way, best of luck to both of you.
First of all, I know what you are going through. Yes, this sport is about our DD's, but it becomes such a part of our lives as well. It provides an opportunity to spend time with them, to watch them grow, etc. It truly is a wonderful experience for those involved. Regardless what others say, it is a portion of your lives together that is apparently about to change. Nothing wrong with having feelings about that. If this does become her decision, then hopefully you will be able to find other ways to spend time together and remain close.
As I read through the other posts, there are really two things that come to my mind;
1) Travel ball is a huge commitment. One of my daughter's best friends played on DDs travel ball team for 2 years before quitting. She was just tired of waking up early, being driven to a field for a 7 am warm up, playing several games, and not getting home until 9 pm. And then do that weekend after weekend all summer long. Honestly, I enjoy it, but after typing it I think wtf is wrong with me
Maybe this is the point your DD has come to. This particular girl has also chosen to play high school ball. It wasn't the sport she was tired of. It was the intense commitment - all summer long.2) Maybe the whole thing has become overkill. I remember a recent thread showing your hitting cage. Very nice setup by the way. But maybe softball is something that she simply can't get away from. 2 years ago, my DD seemed to be getting tired of softball. What I learned is that it was not the sport, but the fact that she couldn't get away from it. At the time I was a coach, team administrator, treasurer, hitting coach, etc., etc. There was something softball related going on virtually every day year round. She got to the point that she just wanted a break and didn't want softball to be EVERYTHING.... Once I learned that, I made it a point to do all of my other softball related responsibilities when she is out, sleeping, etc. We don't talk about softball very often unless she opens the discussion. Obviously there are times I need to discuss things with her, but she is much more in charge of the process now then 2 years ago. As a result, she seems much happier, and therefore I am much happier.
Sorry for rambling... give it some time. Maybe she will change her mind again. Either way, best of luck to both of you.
