No one writes a long paragraph about my kid had an issue and went to the coach or a teacher and the coach saw it her way.
Huh?
We had a thread entitled, "My DD's coach convinced me I was wrong" back in '06...I think.
No one writes a long paragraph about my kid had an issue and went to the coach or a teacher and the coach saw it her way.
Well, sometimes the other player IS the point.
If a coach chooses player A over player B, and player B thinks she is a much better player, then the relative abilities of the players ARE germane to the conversation.
I'll be honest, you hurt her situation.
1. Coaches never want to talk to parents. As a senior, ready to become an adult, your DD should have been the one discussing playing time with her coach. You are not part of the team.
2. It also sounds like your conversation with the coach and the AC got contentious. Arguing about plays, errors and the book is certainly not going to endear you to them and will probably take it out on your DD.
3. Politics. There are many many posts on here about the politics of HS sports and coaches. If your DD missed playing time and the Ath Dir daughter stepped in, and also has a relationship with the coach, your DD is the odd one out. You can bet the AD and the HC are probably talking about your complaining. Since the HC has little history with your DD, she has no loyalty to her. What she did last year is not a factor and they haven't wanted to get to see her much this year.
Let her try to talk to the coach about how to earn more playing time, to help the team wherever she can. It's got to be about the team, not her. Other than that, just let her be a senior on the team and enjoy what's left of her HS career, especially since this is likely the end of softball
And you should step back from the situation and let her handle it. Sorry for being blunt, but you asked for opinions.
On a related note, maybe she shouldn't give up on D3 softball. My DD is a sophomore considering Nursing as well. She's looking at D3's that have Nursing majors on the roster and talking with coaches and Deans of Nursing schools that will work with the student-athletes so they can balance both, especially during clinicals. Depending on the schools your DD is looking at, maybe it's not out of the question. Good luck!
Huh?
We had a thread entitled, "My DD's coach convinced me I was wrong" back in '06...I think.
Well, sometimes the other player IS the point.
If a coach chooses player A over player B, and player B thinks she is a much better player, then the relative abilities of the players ARE germane to the conversation.
It always amuses me when someone says "Coaches don't like to talk to parents" or "coaches....(fill in the blanks)." You guys try to elevate these coaches to some kind of mythical beings. They are humans and not all coaches share the same feelings. If this coach did not like the parent talking for his child, the coach should have said something then and not punish the kid for what the parent did. Till my child turns 18, I am responsible for my child so I am going to be involved in her activities.
I am all for teaching the child the responsibility and in this particular situation and if that is what this coach is trying to do, let the parent know and not screw the kid over during her senior year. Coaches are not robots who can only make either or decisions.
Your DD (not YOU, but your DD) has two choices:
Stick with it, it's just one last spring with her friends, maybe when the HC sees she has recovered, and sees what she can do, the HC will give her more playing time. Or, maybe not.
Or,
Quit the team and never look back. She doesn't have to quit today, but when she feels like she will never get a fair chance from this coach.
Have your DD decide what to do. I could make a strong case either way.