Hi all! I need your advice on how to handle this situation.
My DD is a junior in high school. She is a good player and has been playing travel since she was 11. When my daughter started on her high school varsity team as a freshmen she was the only freshmen on the team, unfortunately for her. There was another player on the team (a sophomore) who we have known since our early travel days (my daughter and her were on the same travel team for a couple years before we decided to join another organization). When this girl was a freshmen, she was the star of the show. However, my daughter's freshmen year she really blossomed. She had the highest batting average, RBI, runs, and home runs on the team. She also was good in the field, at third base, where she never played previously. I think this other player became jealous and a couple times my daughter would come home upset because this girl had made a mean comment to her and even once hit her with a bat! Because I was friends with her mother previously I didn't want to make a big deal about it and figured it would blow over or my daughter was exaggerating.
My daughter's sophomore year but was similar, however things did seem to escalate throughout the season. I won't go into too much detail but there were several text exchanges between my daughter and this other girl that I deemed to be bullying and encouraged my daughter to just stay away from her.
Towards the end of last season, I got a call from the AD and had to pick up my daughter from school. There was a picture on snapchat that was "anonymously" sent into the school of my daughter with an email stating that my daughter was snorting drugs on the bus. I saw the picture...it was a pixie stick...however because of the accusations my daughter was suspended from school for the day and not allowed to play in the last week of the season. To make matters worse...this "anonymous" email was sent in by this girls MOTHER (her son told my daughter and apologized for his mother's actions!). I had my kid drug tested to prove to the school but for whatever reason they wouldn't repeal their decision. This other player ended up being named "all conference" while my DD couldn't even go to the end of the year banquet.
This has led to my DD having a great deal of anxiety and trust issues with her team mates. She is also actively being recruited by D1, D2 and D3 schools and she is paranoid that this would somehow be brought up again (the school has erased her disciplinary record as the accusations were false) which could jeopardize her future and potential college career. The start of the new season is approaching and I have arranged to meet with the AD. I basically do not want this girl to be made captain in fear that sh will destroy my kid but don't think I can demand that. Does anyone have any suggestions? Besides quitting the team? Has anyone gone through anything like this before?
Thanks for your help!
My DD is a junior in high school. She is a good player and has been playing travel since she was 11. When my daughter started on her high school varsity team as a freshmen she was the only freshmen on the team, unfortunately for her. There was another player on the team (a sophomore) who we have known since our early travel days (my daughter and her were on the same travel team for a couple years before we decided to join another organization). When this girl was a freshmen, she was the star of the show. However, my daughter's freshmen year she really blossomed. She had the highest batting average, RBI, runs, and home runs on the team. She also was good in the field, at third base, where she never played previously. I think this other player became jealous and a couple times my daughter would come home upset because this girl had made a mean comment to her and even once hit her with a bat! Because I was friends with her mother previously I didn't want to make a big deal about it and figured it would blow over or my daughter was exaggerating.
My daughter's sophomore year but was similar, however things did seem to escalate throughout the season. I won't go into too much detail but there were several text exchanges between my daughter and this other girl that I deemed to be bullying and encouraged my daughter to just stay away from her.
Towards the end of last season, I got a call from the AD and had to pick up my daughter from school. There was a picture on snapchat that was "anonymously" sent into the school of my daughter with an email stating that my daughter was snorting drugs on the bus. I saw the picture...it was a pixie stick...however because of the accusations my daughter was suspended from school for the day and not allowed to play in the last week of the season. To make matters worse...this "anonymous" email was sent in by this girls MOTHER (her son told my daughter and apologized for his mother's actions!). I had my kid drug tested to prove to the school but for whatever reason they wouldn't repeal their decision. This other player ended up being named "all conference" while my DD couldn't even go to the end of the year banquet.
This has led to my DD having a great deal of anxiety and trust issues with her team mates. She is also actively being recruited by D1, D2 and D3 schools and she is paranoid that this would somehow be brought up again (the school has erased her disciplinary record as the accusations were false) which could jeopardize her future and potential college career. The start of the new season is approaching and I have arranged to meet with the AD. I basically do not want this girl to be made captain in fear that sh will destroy my kid but don't think I can demand that. Does anyone have any suggestions? Besides quitting the team? Has anyone gone through anything like this before?
Thanks for your help!