I don't know what level you're at (8u-18u) but as a parent, it's dang hard sometimes to sit back and let your DD make decisions. We've seen so many sides of people from manipulative to well meaning. If your DD is willing to have those conversations then you're already ahead of the game and congrats to you for raising her well. I think the best thing you can do is help her know the difference between well meaning and deceptive, and when to move on if her goals aren't being met. With that being said, what are her goals? If it's to have fun and be with her friends, then maybe those are already being met. If it's to play for a D1 school then maybe they aren't. Help her weigh the options. My DD just made a move to a new team and it feels good to see her happy, but also make new strides towards her goals.
Ending our first year of 12u. Been playing since Kindergarten. It most definitely is a long hard journey! She loves to play, and she also loves to hang with her friends on the team. So at times, yes, the goals of an 11 year old are probably currently being met. Lol.
My goal in this whole endeavor is for her to understand that anything worth doing is worth working hard for and doing right, team mentality, and that hard work pays off.