- May 27, 2013
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I‘m a female and I coach. I’ve coached from 9U up through 18U. Currently am a recruiting coordinator for an 18U team. Still fill the roll as an assistant with practices.
While I love being an assistant coach, I disliked being a head coach. As a full-time working parent, being a head coach was almost like having another full-time job, plus being an accountant. I also payed my DD’s full fees, and coached for free. What I absolutely disliked about being a head coach was the parent drama. I always hated the Monday’s after tourneys - that’s when the emails would come. Same two parents. One complained about their DD’s playing time after she constantly missed practices for travel soccer; the other would whine to me about the other parents, coaches, and felt like they needed to be “in the know” with everything. Very manipulative. That nonsense just wasn’t worth the headaches to me. Not sure if they felt it was easier to try and complain to me being a female, but it just got old very quickly, and I wasn’t having it.
If parents weren’t involved I’d love to be a head coach again. I loved the girls, and several who I coached are and will be playing in college. I like to think I played a small part in that journey. Some I still KIT with via social media.
My role now is nice because I don’t have to handle the parent drama and the girls (18U) and I enjoy chatting on the bench in between games. Honestly, I don’t think parents realize how frustrating they can be at times, and it’s a shame because they can definitely hinder their DD’s growth and love for the game when they are overbearing to a coach. Trust me - they see it.
While I love being an assistant coach, I disliked being a head coach. As a full-time working parent, being a head coach was almost like having another full-time job, plus being an accountant. I also payed my DD’s full fees, and coached for free. What I absolutely disliked about being a head coach was the parent drama. I always hated the Monday’s after tourneys - that’s when the emails would come. Same two parents. One complained about their DD’s playing time after she constantly missed practices for travel soccer; the other would whine to me about the other parents, coaches, and felt like they needed to be “in the know” with everything. Very manipulative. That nonsense just wasn’t worth the headaches to me. Not sure if they felt it was easier to try and complain to me being a female, but it just got old very quickly, and I wasn’t having it.
If parents weren’t involved I’d love to be a head coach again. I loved the girls, and several who I coached are and will be playing in college. I like to think I played a small part in that journey. Some I still KIT with via social media.
My role now is nice because I don’t have to handle the parent drama and the girls (18U) and I enjoy chatting on the bench in between games. Honestly, I don’t think parents realize how frustrating they can be at times, and it’s a shame because they can definitely hinder their DD’s growth and love for the game when they are overbearing to a coach. Trust me - they see it.