So, yesterday I tell my coach that I'm benching our 1st baseman. She's missed 3 of 11 games and parts of 2 others. Missed the last practice because of a school project. Coach vehemently disagrees with me; says I need to have a talk with player/parents first. We talk for a while, I sit the girl for the first 2 1/2 innings, put her in for the last half of the game. Coach not happy with me because the substitute 3rd baseman (normal 3rd baseman took over at 1st) muffed a couple balls costing us either 2 or 4 runs (depending on whether you blame a pitcher blow up on the errors or because the pitcher has problems shaking off teammate mistakes).
Next day have the talk with the parent of the player I benched. Was upset that her girl was being punished because she chose school over softball. Asked her which of the girls that came to practice I should have benched besides her daughter. Doesn't matter to parent. Upset that her daughter was "singled out" for punishment. Told her that with school activities now over (missed games were due to volleyball league), I needed 100% commitment from her and daughter: no more missed games, no more missed practices. Mom not happy.
Assistant coach's daughter (good all-around player) comes up to me in warmups before the game and tells me she has a pain in her side (had same problem previous night when wife took her home...wife considered taking her to ER at the time, the pain was so bad). I tell her to rest. 10 minutes before the game I check to see if she can play, she says no. I adjust lineup and give to other team. 5 minutes before the game she says she is good. I tell her I've already changed the lineup and that I'll get her in in the 3rd inning. Coach pissed at me because I didn't check with him first and that I didn't just put her back in the lineup (which besides already being turned in, would have meant me changing it all around again...bumping the #3 batter back to normal #6 slot, 6 slot to 7, etc. etc.) Coach won't talk to me (or kids) for first 3 innings of the game.
Talented pitcher (who was mad at me the previous night for only giving her two innings...wanted to get the other pitcher some work once we broke open a lead) couldn't find the plate. Gave up 5 runs in her first inning of work (thank god for the 5 run rule in our league). Walked the first batter next inning. Replaced her with other pitcher. Player pouts at third base and misses a cover. Move her to right field. Pitcher pissed the rest of the night and refuses to engage with team (I would have subbed her out there, but didn't have any subs left).
Some days, you just want to chuck it all in.
/rant
Next day have the talk with the parent of the player I benched. Was upset that her girl was being punished because she chose school over softball. Asked her which of the girls that came to practice I should have benched besides her daughter. Doesn't matter to parent. Upset that her daughter was "singled out" for punishment. Told her that with school activities now over (missed games were due to volleyball league), I needed 100% commitment from her and daughter: no more missed games, no more missed practices. Mom not happy.
Assistant coach's daughter (good all-around player) comes up to me in warmups before the game and tells me she has a pain in her side (had same problem previous night when wife took her home...wife considered taking her to ER at the time, the pain was so bad). I tell her to rest. 10 minutes before the game I check to see if she can play, she says no. I adjust lineup and give to other team. 5 minutes before the game she says she is good. I tell her I've already changed the lineup and that I'll get her in in the 3rd inning. Coach pissed at me because I didn't check with him first and that I didn't just put her back in the lineup (which besides already being turned in, would have meant me changing it all around again...bumping the #3 batter back to normal #6 slot, 6 slot to 7, etc. etc.) Coach won't talk to me (or kids) for first 3 innings of the game.
Talented pitcher (who was mad at me the previous night for only giving her two innings...wanted to get the other pitcher some work once we broke open a lead) couldn't find the plate. Gave up 5 runs in her first inning of work (thank god for the 5 run rule in our league). Walked the first batter next inning. Replaced her with other pitcher. Player pouts at third base and misses a cover. Move her to right field. Pitcher pissed the rest of the night and refuses to engage with team (I would have subbed her out there, but didn't have any subs left).
Some days, you just want to chuck it all in.
/rant