I know now that this isn't something you approach coaches about, so that's why I am asking here. Probably not fair since you all do not know dd, nor have you seen her in action. LOL. Just trying to figure out what's missing or if I am just over-analyzing...so...here goes:
My dd works very hard at softball. To me, however biased, she does work very hard and it shows. I have been told by several people that she has very high work ethic. However, consistently (for the last 5 years), coaches put her at the end of the line as far as playing time and such. I guess what I am asking is...what makes "good" and "quality" players stand out? Do you have players that work hard but still don't "deserve" playing time? How much harder does dd have to work to move up the line?
When I watch the girls practice, dd throws hard and straight, moves fast, hustles...just like the rest... She is a little slower infield tho (does not have SS speed) so she's more of a 1st/3rd base. And during drills for practice, they almost always put her in the catching part of the drill, and not where the action is (they have 3 other lines of girls at 3rd, SS and 2nd...they hit hard balls to those 3 positions...dd is at first where SS, 2nd and 3rd throw to her)...so she's missing out on that drill. She is in that position with 2 other girls...1 who is visibly weak (weaker than her) and the other has a broken wrist). Oh yeah, and she pitches too but has already been told that she will pitch in pool games only (she's 2 years younger than everyone else...just started this team this past January...oh and when I say "coaches", I am really referring to any coach she's had so it's not just this team that she's the youngest on).
Also, for games, coaches will consistently put her in LF. After reading the LF/CF/RF post, I am beginning to think that dd isn't all that great. She LOVES softball, and it would absolutely CRUSH her if she was told that it wasn't for her. She never puts up a fuss on where the coaches put her...NEVER. She goes with the flow, and knows that whatever the coaches' actions are, it's for the good fo the team...and she's happy with that.
Sigh...I am just trying to figure out what it is, and if it's just something I need to shut up and watch...if it was meant to be, it will be...maybe something will click with her? She is Type A personality so she does tense up, and does not have the natural grace that some of these athletes seem to have. I am wondering if yoga would help her relax...LOL. Is there anything I should be doing to help her improve? Pitching takes up a lot of time so taking extra time for fielding drills or hitting is hard.
One last thing...would you, as a coach, tell the parents at the end of a season that it's not working out or if dd just isn't where she needs to be in comparison with peer players? Would you ever say something along the lines of "she isn't that good" or whatever? Probably not in those words...but something by way of saying that dd isn't going to get any better even with all the hard work? Am I making sense? LOL.
Okay, I'm shutting up now. It's been on my mind, but I never wanted to say anything out loud to anyone...not even my husband.
My dd works very hard at softball. To me, however biased, she does work very hard and it shows. I have been told by several people that she has very high work ethic. However, consistently (for the last 5 years), coaches put her at the end of the line as far as playing time and such. I guess what I am asking is...what makes "good" and "quality" players stand out? Do you have players that work hard but still don't "deserve" playing time? How much harder does dd have to work to move up the line?
When I watch the girls practice, dd throws hard and straight, moves fast, hustles...just like the rest... She is a little slower infield tho (does not have SS speed) so she's more of a 1st/3rd base. And during drills for practice, they almost always put her in the catching part of the drill, and not where the action is (they have 3 other lines of girls at 3rd, SS and 2nd...they hit hard balls to those 3 positions...dd is at first where SS, 2nd and 3rd throw to her)...so she's missing out on that drill. She is in that position with 2 other girls...1 who is visibly weak (weaker than her) and the other has a broken wrist). Oh yeah, and she pitches too but has already been told that she will pitch in pool games only (she's 2 years younger than everyone else...just started this team this past January...oh and when I say "coaches", I am really referring to any coach she's had so it's not just this team that she's the youngest on).
Also, for games, coaches will consistently put her in LF. After reading the LF/CF/RF post, I am beginning to think that dd isn't all that great. She LOVES softball, and it would absolutely CRUSH her if she was told that it wasn't for her. She never puts up a fuss on where the coaches put her...NEVER. She goes with the flow, and knows that whatever the coaches' actions are, it's for the good fo the team...and she's happy with that.
Sigh...I am just trying to figure out what it is, and if it's just something I need to shut up and watch...if it was meant to be, it will be...maybe something will click with her? She is Type A personality so she does tense up, and does not have the natural grace that some of these athletes seem to have. I am wondering if yoga would help her relax...LOL. Is there anything I should be doing to help her improve? Pitching takes up a lot of time so taking extra time for fielding drills or hitting is hard.
One last thing...would you, as a coach, tell the parents at the end of a season that it's not working out or if dd just isn't where she needs to be in comparison with peer players? Would you ever say something along the lines of "she isn't that good" or whatever? Probably not in those words...but something by way of saying that dd isn't going to get any better even with all the hard work? Am I making sense? LOL.
Okay, I'm shutting up now. It's been on my mind, but I never wanted to say anything out loud to anyone...not even my husband.