Almost all "good" pitchers have parents who are very emotionally invested in their child's success. It takes a tremendous amount of work for the child to develop in the pitcher. The parents usually have a lot of time, money and energy invested in the child's development as a pitcher.
So, naturally, these parents have a hard time "emotionally distancing" themselves from the child, and letting the child succeed or fail on her own. Some parents want to control everything to insure that their child succeeds.
The worst are those who don't understand competition--i.e., sometimes you win and sometimes you lose, but you play the games even though you might lose because they are supposed to be fun.
Speaking from experience over the last 6 or so years it was not about ensuring success. Rather it was to keep idiots from screwing her up. I was told time and time again to let go and turn her over to someone else if only for the sole reason of having someone else coach her and prepare her for college. I tried but unfortunately with too many of the coaches out there you could write what they knew about pitching on the head of a pin. The good ones freely admit this, the ones that won't should be avoided at all costs.
I remember a tryout with a well known "Gold Team" where the coach upon hearing from my DD that her go-to pitch was a riseball, proclaimed that college coaches did not want riseball pitchers and she should learn to throw a drop. At the ripe age of 14 she proceeded to throw BP against his 18U "Gold Team" team and not a single player got the ball out of the infield. Needless to say passed on the offer to play with them.
The reality is that very few TB teams and even fewer HS teams have the coaching expertise to develop pitchers. These coaches rely on the parents to invest (heavily) in the development of pitchers with outside resources, then they complain when the parent takes exception to them mucking with the end product.
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