Greenmonsters
Wannabe Duck Boat Owner
For any coach to call out pitch locations at the 14U level is exceedingly poor sportsmanship. At that age, it is probably best to go talk to him or the head coach. Explain that it is not surprising that he can outsmart a kid that age, but that the kids don't learn anything from it.
At higher levels you can argue that you should be smarter about the signals you use or about how the catcher sets up. But the fact that you can work around it, doesn't mean that it is no longer poor sportsmanship. That is particularly true when the coach does it from first or third base. At D1, when the 3rd base coach calls "change" in the middle of a pitch, it is not because of the way the catcher sets up, it is because he sees from the pitcher's grip that she is throwing a changeup. While the pitcher should try to hide from the batter what she's throwing, the 3rd base coach has the unfair advantage of a different angle. By the time he calls it, the pitcher has already started her pitch, and can't really change it anymore. It seems that that is what the Oregon coach did, and he seriously diminishes his team's achievement with this behavior.
In MLB this would cause a big stink; I don't see why it should be ok in softball.
It's only an issue if the signs were stolen using video feeds or input from non-field personnel. The only other time you might hear or know about signs being stolen using traditional means is when a middle IF has an animated chat w/ a runner on 2B or a batter ends up wearing a pitch accompanied by a message. Unless you're not smart enought to realize it or figure out how to prevent it or, better yet, use it to your advantage, stealing signs becomes useless as soon as the other team is aware you're doing it.