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What I WISH I had also done was hitting lessons earlier. While she did reasonably well at the plate with only me teaching her, she reached a wall, and the HS batting coach she started seeing as a 14yo really helped her grow. If I had it to do over again, she would have been going to that guy as a 8yo.
Don't let the hitting take a back seat...please. Pitching may or may not work out, but being able to hit will guarantee that she has a spot on a team for as long as she wants it. I asked DD yesterday how many times she's been out of the batting lineup, and she could only come up with one time five years ago.
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Double highlight these paragraphs and get your daughter hitting lessons if it's in the budget. Then invest in a tee, a net and bucket of balls. Carve out time from her schedule to practice on the tee and from both of your schedules for soft toss. Go to the local field, grab a screen and practice front toss. My DD just turned fourteen and is finally hitting consistently ... wish we had started lessons and structured practice much earlier.