I know what you mean. I eyerolled too when I yelled at for my sports bra showing. I think sometimes parents have nothing better to complain about.
I do use Frog Togs. I love mine. I use two or three of them and I use them in rotation. We are going to be playing on turf when we are in Texas. I've heard its supposed to be mid to upper 90's while we're there. I will be having togs under my gear.