Well, coaches DD cannot pitch and play SS at the same time, so my suggestion would be to have your DD play the one not occupied by coaches DD. I would also like to point out that 98.2% of recruiting is done in TB and at camps, so your DD's HS experience can only have a negative impact on 1.8% of the recruiting process...although I have found that college LOVE to put HS stats in their players bios.
Just FYI: there was an SEC Head Coach at our HS game today. Allegedly watching our 9th grade SS.