Let me start with a little background. My DD plays 12B. Two of our coaches are parents of the 2 other pitchers. My DD and one of our catchers always work together during her pitching lessons. They have great chemistry, but both move at a slow pace. One of coaches told me that they are going to cut back on their playing together because of their pace. The head coach does not have a kid who pitches. Is this coach trying to undermine my kid or am I looking too much into this? I really don't want to be that parent who complains and I'd never do anything to jeopardize my daughter's game, but something doesn't seem right. This same coach also wants to have my DD pitch relief instead of starting because she always does well in relief. Well, she does pretty good when she starts too. What do you think?
Impossible to determine the coaches' motives. My guess is this - The theory that your DD is better in relief is a made-up story to help her accept or buy into a new rule. I call BS on that. But I doubt the coaches are intentionally undermining your daughter, but they might not think she's as good as their daughters, or as good as you think she is. And they may or may not be accurate in that assessment. Most coaches are fair, IMO. Most of those who are not fair come by it naturally, meaning they just lack objectivity or the ability to fairly assess players. It's rare that coaches put their daughters first when they know they don't deserve it.