- Jun 15, 2015
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Hello - this is my first posting here and I could use some advice from other softball parents... My daughter plays travel softball for a 14U team that for the most part she has loved playing for... She is the number 2 pitcher and does a pretty good job most of the time.. Sometimes she is really on and sometimes she is off... We are realistic about her talent level. She works with a pitching and batting coach, practices on her own at least 5 days a week and plays rec and all-stars during the week to get ready get for travel. She reads books and tries to watch every softball video she can get her hands on to improve her game.
Here's the scenario: The assistant's coaches daughter also pitches (she is the number 1) deserving of such as she is an all around good kid and plays great softball. The catcher is the managers daughter and she is a good player with a poor attitude. My daughter is new to this team this year and we live the furthest away from the team. We make a point of being early to practice and to attend every event required.
Anyway, this week's tournament comes around the number one pitcher gets hurt the first couple innings of game one. My daughter and another pitcher (who is young and still developing) pitch the entire weekend... Which is great! Until our last game on Sunday. My daughter started with the coaches daughter catching and right off the bat you knew the catcher was out for her...being mean (she would throw the ball as hard as she could back to my daughter and many times at her ankles) it was obvious to everyone she was trying to hurt my daughter. Despite this, my daughter threw a no-hitter for almost 5 innings of the game with no one getting on base. She got a hit and struck out offensively. The bottom of the 5th in a rainstorm the other team made adjustments and earned one hit. My daughter walked two but then struck out the next batter, the next batter hit a hard line drive that bounced off her glove and she had a bad throw to first, that caused runners to advance. I am in no way making excuses for her, she made an error.... Next batter hits about 5 foul balls into deep left field... The last pitch she hit a huge hit that was playable by the left fielder. The left fielder was asleep and didn't make the play until it was too late, she overthrew the cut off and more errors ensued. They took my daughter out and replaced her with said outfielder who is the weaker (younger) pitcher. My daughter and this girl get along great.. My daughter told her to go getem and she was very positive of the other pitcher. This young pitcher walked five straight batters and when we finally got out of the inning the damage was done. We had very few hits that game and we lost...
So - here's where I need your advice.... The assistant coach pulls the girls over to the outfield to talk to them, and promptly tells the team... and I quote..
"If we had a F'ing pitcher who could make the throw to first then we wouldn't have lost the game...." He told my daughter using the f-bomb that it was her fault because she made one throwing error to first.... He was swearing so loudly at the girls (my kid in particular) the other team could hear him. The head coach meanwhile took his bucket of balls and stormed off mad and never said anything. If you ask me that was childish...
This behavior from both of these coaches is so not like them, they are always preaching about playing the game with respect, respect for each other, respect for opponent etc...They play the game this way, our girls have in the past received praise for how they play and how respectful they were.. They ask all parents to sign a code of conduct and everyone gets along for the most part. One problem is we haven't practiced in the last few months (excuse is because the girls are playing school ball) and based on the discussions it doesn't look like there will be practice till the next tournament in two weeks. I feel as if I am the only one who has a problem with not practicing AT ALL... The girls need to play together to win together... When we played indoor tournaments and we practiced every week we were unstoppable... My daughter has pitched a no-hitter and shared a no-hitter with the Number 1 pitcher.. We have a good group of girls that up until this point played well together and got along. The coaches daughter (catcher) all of a sudden has started to become very mean and has alienated a bunch of the team...
I am perplexed on what to do... I understand that everyone is frustrated and I get that, but using the f-bomb with kids in a group setting is unacceptable. What floors me is there were 6 errors made and very little offense yet it's my daughter's fault for losing??? She accepts her part in making an error but I am not sure if I should talk to the coach about the disrespect that has now started to spill over onto the team as well. I don't want to be "that parent" but at the same time it is not acceptable to swear and act that way as a coach. They are supposed to be role models.. It is now a very strained relationship. I don't want to make it worse but I also know it needs to be addressed.
Any advice is appreciated...
Here's the scenario: The assistant's coaches daughter also pitches (she is the number 1) deserving of such as she is an all around good kid and plays great softball. The catcher is the managers daughter and she is a good player with a poor attitude. My daughter is new to this team this year and we live the furthest away from the team. We make a point of being early to practice and to attend every event required.
Anyway, this week's tournament comes around the number one pitcher gets hurt the first couple innings of game one. My daughter and another pitcher (who is young and still developing) pitch the entire weekend... Which is great! Until our last game on Sunday. My daughter started with the coaches daughter catching and right off the bat you knew the catcher was out for her...being mean (she would throw the ball as hard as she could back to my daughter and many times at her ankles) it was obvious to everyone she was trying to hurt my daughter. Despite this, my daughter threw a no-hitter for almost 5 innings of the game with no one getting on base. She got a hit and struck out offensively. The bottom of the 5th in a rainstorm the other team made adjustments and earned one hit. My daughter walked two but then struck out the next batter, the next batter hit a hard line drive that bounced off her glove and she had a bad throw to first, that caused runners to advance. I am in no way making excuses for her, she made an error.... Next batter hits about 5 foul balls into deep left field... The last pitch she hit a huge hit that was playable by the left fielder. The left fielder was asleep and didn't make the play until it was too late, she overthrew the cut off and more errors ensued. They took my daughter out and replaced her with said outfielder who is the weaker (younger) pitcher. My daughter and this girl get along great.. My daughter told her to go getem and she was very positive of the other pitcher. This young pitcher walked five straight batters and when we finally got out of the inning the damage was done. We had very few hits that game and we lost...
So - here's where I need your advice.... The assistant coach pulls the girls over to the outfield to talk to them, and promptly tells the team... and I quote..
"If we had a F'ing pitcher who could make the throw to first then we wouldn't have lost the game...." He told my daughter using the f-bomb that it was her fault because she made one throwing error to first.... He was swearing so loudly at the girls (my kid in particular) the other team could hear him. The head coach meanwhile took his bucket of balls and stormed off mad and never said anything. If you ask me that was childish...
This behavior from both of these coaches is so not like them, they are always preaching about playing the game with respect, respect for each other, respect for opponent etc...They play the game this way, our girls have in the past received praise for how they play and how respectful they were.. They ask all parents to sign a code of conduct and everyone gets along for the most part. One problem is we haven't practiced in the last few months (excuse is because the girls are playing school ball) and based on the discussions it doesn't look like there will be practice till the next tournament in two weeks. I feel as if I am the only one who has a problem with not practicing AT ALL... The girls need to play together to win together... When we played indoor tournaments and we practiced every week we were unstoppable... My daughter has pitched a no-hitter and shared a no-hitter with the Number 1 pitcher.. We have a good group of girls that up until this point played well together and got along. The coaches daughter (catcher) all of a sudden has started to become very mean and has alienated a bunch of the team...
I am perplexed on what to do... I understand that everyone is frustrated and I get that, but using the f-bomb with kids in a group setting is unacceptable. What floors me is there were 6 errors made and very little offense yet it's my daughter's fault for losing??? She accepts her part in making an error but I am not sure if I should talk to the coach about the disrespect that has now started to spill over onto the team as well. I don't want to be "that parent" but at the same time it is not acceptable to swear and act that way as a coach. They are supposed to be role models.. It is now a very strained relationship. I don't want to make it worse but I also know it needs to be addressed.
Any advice is appreciated...