Buckeye, I've been reading through this carefully. Crossroads is a good description. I tend to keep commitments to a fault. Show loyalty even when it isn't deserved, because my word means something even if the other person's doesn't. But I also see another pattern here: you to a role which you embraced with clear passion and innovation. I would say that those who entrusted you with that role also made a commitment, not to agree with everything you suggest or give you full and unchecked license to do as you will, but to be a part of a creative and cooperative process. To me that constitutes an agreement - a deal. You were cut out of the process and essentially turned into an errand boy; therefore they broke the deal. That doesn't mean you should drop the job out of hand, but I do believe it gives you freedom to do so with a clear conscience. Personally, I suggest you step away, and not simply out of frustration and revenge (even though those are pretty honest places to be). Here are a couple of items I would encourage you to consider.
-You made hard-earned gains with local HS coaches at the risk of your own reputation. What will it mean in the future if these coaches lose confidence in your personal integrity?
-The enormous amount of work you have already done was not only unappreciated, it was dismissed. These are people who are not interested in your leadership. They only want you to be a good boy and do things the last guy's way. That's why he was consulted about the future you were proposing and you were ignored. It is likely you will continue to be ignored. Admittedly I'm at a distance from this, but I don't buy that their conciliatory tones were genuine.
-The girls in the program will continue to receive the level of service to which they have become accustomed. They won't know how much better it could have been.
-Your own personal stress level and how that affects your health and your own family shouldn't be overlooked.
It does no good to beat a dead horse. The horse won't run any faster, and you just get tired. In your shoes, I would write a letter of resignation to the Board and other appropriate parties (with copies given to the HS coaches and others you determine) describing the broken process, highlighting the lack of inclusion and communication, and noting that nobody can perform the job competently in such an environment. I would try to keep it professional and simple, avoiding the appearance of being vengeful and emotional.
There are other ways to enjoy this wonderful game that won't invite a stroke.
-You made hard-earned gains with local HS coaches at the risk of your own reputation. What will it mean in the future if these coaches lose confidence in your personal integrity?
-The enormous amount of work you have already done was not only unappreciated, it was dismissed. These are people who are not interested in your leadership. They only want you to be a good boy and do things the last guy's way. That's why he was consulted about the future you were proposing and you were ignored. It is likely you will continue to be ignored. Admittedly I'm at a distance from this, but I don't buy that their conciliatory tones were genuine.
-The girls in the program will continue to receive the level of service to which they have become accustomed. They won't know how much better it could have been.
-Your own personal stress level and how that affects your health and your own family shouldn't be overlooked.
It does no good to beat a dead horse. The horse won't run any faster, and you just get tired. In your shoes, I would write a letter of resignation to the Board and other appropriate parties (with copies given to the HS coaches and others you determine) describing the broken process, highlighting the lack of inclusion and communication, and noting that nobody can perform the job competently in such an environment. I would try to keep it professional and simple, avoiding the appearance of being vengeful and emotional.
There are other ways to enjoy this wonderful game that won't invite a stroke.