Hitting Issues

[cvsoftball]

The chair is for the parent, not the player.

I'm not so sure about that.

 

[Eric F]

I'm not so sure about that.

In my experience, most player-parent conflicts on the ballfield are best resolved by the parent getting the hell out of the equation. That said, occasionally a player needs a time-out for some attitude adjustment.

 

[peanut]

Ok specifics and I will reword, she has been told a lot of what to do about hitting and it seems it just goes in and out of one side to the other. So excuse me if I reword it my phrase wrong I apologize. I do get on her when she messes up and I do praise her when she does well. Yes I am a hard dad at times. But ever since she started at a pee wee age that's all I ever heard from every coach she has a gift. So maybe I should go out to left field and eat a bag of seeds.She listens to the coaches very well its me she doesn't at times. Even her mother has chimed in and she hasn't listened. She has 2 very good hitting coaches maybe its a time thing when she hits 13 or 14 when her power really kicks in.As for these tests they were done with video radar stuff I couldn't tell you what the devices where called but at 12 she is hitting at a sophomore junior level.They did some power skill how fast the ball comes off the bat some thing like that and they said she has very quick hands and great power. I truly think when some of these girls on the team that don't give a shirt brings my daughter down and when the team doesn't play well she doesn't but she should, as far as the criticism she hates it I will always tell her the truth but being a little spoiled which is my fault she doesn't take it well .I guess I will sit back like I did today we won she went 1-2 slow game.We are 2-0 in the tournament so far we Play tomorrow.Thank You for all your comments

 

[Eric F]

As I said before, it sounds like your DD is behaving pretty typically for her age - listen to coaches, ignore dad. As a coach on my DD's team, I will often ask another coach to instruct my DD on a particular issue, just so she will listen to it - LOL.

 

[CoogansBluff]

... she has been told a lot of what to do about hitting and it seems it just goes in and out of one side to the other. ... I do get on her when she messes up and I do praise her when she does well. Yes I am a hard dad at times. But ever since she started at a pee wee age that's all I ever heard from every coach she has a gift.

Still would be curious to know what specifically she's being told to do in hitting. If it's a small adjustment in her stance, then yeah, that should be pretty easy. If it's a significant mechanical change, then that can take months. One of the hardest things in softball is making significant changes in hitting when you also are feeling pressure to produce. I don't know if this is related, but you concede that you get onto her when she messes up, and when you gave a report on her game today, you said she went 1-for-2 (the result) but didn't comment on how well she's doing what her coaches are telling her (the process). Kids can get conflicted about that.

Also, I don't think whether a child has a gift would affect how I parent (push) them. I'd be more interested in nurturing her love of the game than her talent for the game. The love has more predictive value, IMO.

 

[FiveFrameSwing]

Ok specifics and I will reword, she has been told a lot of what to do about hitting and it seems it just goes in and out of one side to the other. So excuse me if I reword it my phrase wrong I apologize. I do get on her when she messes up and I do praise her when she does well. Yes I am a hard dad at times. But ever since she started at a pee wee age that's all I ever heard from every coach she has a gift. So maybe I should go out to left field and eat a bag of seeds.She listens to the coaches very well its me she doesn't at times. Even her mother has chimed in and she hasn't listened. She has 2 very good hitting coaches maybe its a time thing when she hits 13 or 14 when her power really kicks in.As for these tests they were done with video radar stuff I couldn't tell you what the devices where called but at 12 she is hitting at a sophomore junior level.They did some power skill how fast the ball comes off the bat some thing like that and they said she has very quick hands and great power. I truly think when some of these girls on the team that don't give a shirt brings my daughter down and when the team doesn't play well she doesn't but she should, as far as the criticism she hates it I will always tell her the truth but being a little spoiled which is my fault she doesn't take it well .I guess I will sit back like I did today we won she went 1-2 slow game.We are 2-0 in the tournament so far we Play tomorrow.Thank You for all your comments

Hope things work out.

 

[grcsftbll]

Also, I don't think whether a child has a gift would affect how I parent (push) them. I'd be more interested in nurturing her love of the game than her talent for the game. The love has more predictive value, IMO.

I soooo agree with this. I wonder how many girls have had softball ruined for them because some coach or instructor told her parents she had a gift. I know a few who I think are very talented, but I bet will quit within a few years because of the way their parents act trying to make sure they take full advantage of their "gift."

 

[_MIA_]

I soooo agree with this. I wonder how many girls have had softball ruined for them because some coach or instructor told her parents she had a gift. I know a few who I think are very talented, but I bet will quit within a few years because of the way their parents act trying to make sure they take full advantage of their "gift."

There is a happy medium that needs to be reached which is somewhere between never telling a kid they are any
good and acting as if they are Babe Ruth. I think in this century more parents seem to be inclined to lean
towards the latter attitude and it is reflected when I get them in my University courses...

 

[Cannonball]

Peanut, being a parent is the hardest job a person can have. Factor then that you have your child's best interest at heart and sometimes it seems like they are their own worst enemy. Still, it is a journey for them and you are along for the ride.