Losing can be discouraging. It was one of the biggest, if not THE biggest, reason why my DD 1 quit softball.
Let's look at her freshman year of HS.
In the fall she was on a 14u fall ball team run by the local LL. They lost every game. One time I had to talk her out of quitting in the middle of a double header.
She was also on a 16u TB team where she was the ONLY freshman and felt over her head. They played in a fall tourney, lost both pool games and the bracket was rained out. They probably could've gotten 3rd in that tourney, but we will never know.
So, DD 1 quit softball after that. She was persuaded to play on her school's freshman team, and she led the team in hits, HR and SB, all by a big margin. She once got 7 or 8 SB in one game. But, the team lost all but two games. Some were embarrassing blowouts. Others were close games where they gave up a lead. One of the last games I saw was a close one with some very bad calls by the refs that probably cost them the game; extremely discouraging in a season with only two wins, and they had lost two close ones to this same team earlier in the season.
All I know is softball wasn't fun for DD 1 anymore. So she stopped playing.
Losing a tough game is discouraging. But, you have 8 wins. DD 1 played for 3 teams and had a total of 2 wins.
I don't know what to say. A lot of people who race look at their individual results. I remember after DS stopped running track, I still took him to a few summer meets. He was last place every time (sometimes he got a second place ribbon or medal bc only two runners) but he was happy as a clam because every race he got a PR (personal record). My DD 2 and 3 are a little below average in Cross Country, but they get a PR almost every meet, which makes them happy. They are both about 4 minutes faster on the 5k race than they were a month ago. DD 3 might end up the season above average.
If losing is discouraging you, maybe you can focus on your own personal goals. Did you hit well, run well, field well and throw well? Are you improving? If the answers to most or all questions are yes, you had a great game no matter what the score.
Let's look at her freshman year of HS.
In the fall she was on a 14u fall ball team run by the local LL. They lost every game. One time I had to talk her out of quitting in the middle of a double header.
She was also on a 16u TB team where she was the ONLY freshman and felt over her head. They played in a fall tourney, lost both pool games and the bracket was rained out. They probably could've gotten 3rd in that tourney, but we will never know.
So, DD 1 quit softball after that. She was persuaded to play on her school's freshman team, and she led the team in hits, HR and SB, all by a big margin. She once got 7 or 8 SB in one game. But, the team lost all but two games. Some were embarrassing blowouts. Others were close games where they gave up a lead. One of the last games I saw was a close one with some very bad calls by the refs that probably cost them the game; extremely discouraging in a season with only two wins, and they had lost two close ones to this same team earlier in the season.
All I know is softball wasn't fun for DD 1 anymore. So she stopped playing.
Losing a tough game is discouraging. But, you have 8 wins. DD 1 played for 3 teams and had a total of 2 wins.
I don't know what to say. A lot of people who race look at their individual results. I remember after DS stopped running track, I still took him to a few summer meets. He was last place every time (sometimes he got a second place ribbon or medal bc only two runners) but he was happy as a clam because every race he got a PR (personal record). My DD 2 and 3 are a little below average in Cross Country, but they get a PR almost every meet, which makes them happy. They are both about 4 minutes faster on the 5k race than they were a month ago. DD 3 might end up the season above average.
If losing is discouraging you, maybe you can focus on your own personal goals. Did you hit well, run well, field well and throw well? Are you improving? If the answers to most or all questions are yes, you had a great game no matter what the score.