JJsqueeze
Dad, Husband....legend
try this....ask the coach to pitch the way he is instructing and tell him that if he is more accurate and faster than her then you will do what he says.
It is frustrating and I have had similar problems. What I always keep in mind is, if I am worried about this, then everything is great with my family, etc. Softball is such a small part of our world, over all.
Does she also play rec or travel ball? Then, give her this chance to work on a second position. It sounds like she might not pitch, even if she was Cat Osterman. Work on hitting and tell her not to take the nonsense to heart.
Further. this "she's uncoachable" label because of this is horsepucky.
The coach is IGNORANT. And, I find that to be a bigger problem than being "uncoachable."
Where did you get this? The OP said that she didn't want to come across as uncoachable, not that the coach said she was.
toquin,
Here's a sad story, my friend...
My DD throws upper 50's and spins a controlled axis (depending on the pitch) at over 20 rps. She has control of a hard 8-2, 7-1, and 6-12 drop, and throws a nasty horseshoe change. She dominates in TB... but in HS (plays JV as 8th grader) she's not allowed to pitch because she doesn't hello-elbow it... and their other catcher can't consistently catch her (no joke... it was a subject discussed at a team meeting).
The coach wants balls down the middle... and every time my DD throws an inside pitch... she gets on my DD's case. She has taken video of her at practice to study at home (because my DD 'does this weird turn-over thing with her hand').
As you can imagine... I need to stay as far away from this as possible... to the point where I sit as far away as possible (my wife supplies the duct tape). Love the other pitchers (as people)... but the truth is that they don't work at their craft enough - and have succumbed to all the H/E pressure. By the end of the game... they are all bent forward at the waist guiding their pitches... it freakin' kills me.
The real insult... my DD is the best catcher, too... so... she has to catch these other pitchers... and watch these upper 40 meatballs get drilled into the outfield... or by the end of the game... watch the opponents walk around the bases.
We don't quit anything.... but we've decided that having a HS priority in years to come will be less of a focus than TB. For the remainder of the season... she is focused on getting as many outs as she can for her team... as the catcher. Had two 2nd base throwdown outs on steals last game, three picks to 3B (one a steal attempt, and the other 2 we're over-aggressive runners), and a double play on a bunt (1-2-3).
So... point being... we are doing whatever we can to turn this negative into a positive... and make it a priority for her to be a good teammate and contributor.
I'd recommend getting her into a league with better competition...
Wish you the best... stay positive! ~JS