- Oct 1, 2012
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I'm sorry this has happened, but we all know it's reversible. I hope it's just one of those "things", she learns a lesson, and moves forward productively.
College is a hard choice by itself, add in sports and it doubles. Add in a social life, boy/girlfriend, parties, night life............it can be brutal.
Just curious and these might help other members as well. How much of an adjustment was it for her? How were her HS grades before college? What degree/field is she going for? Where do you think the "problem" is in her personal situation?
Its really hard to pinpoint one thing I guess. Right off the bat the fall ball experience was pretty lame. At best they had 4 players per practice...workout times and facility access were very unorganized. The "mandatory" study group every player was suppose to attend was not attended by any of the players. She tried to get a few of her teammates to work out with her and they had no desire to do so. She would want to stay after practice but no one would stay and workout. So on that level i think the deflation of her expectations of what playing there was going to be contributed to her overall view of school. To be honest I think that may have been the biggest let down....expecting one thing and seeing something completely different. Her HS grades were above average...she was a B-C student.
Enter the boyfriend...he was not an athlete or even in college...didn't have alot going for him. So, from a dads perspective I was shaking my head the entire time. She had a friend from HS that she ended up palling around with who was not very concerned with school....so all those ingredients combined I believe lead to this. Its a big responsibility to handle...especially if your coaches are not around and your not being influenced by other players in terms of study and working out, etc. I think also that when you come from a place of work ethic and committment to a place that you very quickly see is less than committed...she didn't know how to handle that and or change that and made the decision to just go along with the status quo. I remember skipping some classes to but I also knew that if my coach caught wind of it there would be hell to pay. all that being said...don't think for a minute some changes aren't coming in my expectations of her...she has to decide and then live with that decision. Its extremely hard to take that line after putting so much into it but its been said..She dug that hole and she is more than capable of getting back out.