- Jun 12, 2015
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Early on we were really careful what we said around our DD (9 yo). She was happy, wanted to play more but loved the team. We put a positive spin on things. Work hard, earn your spot. That was the goal. As time went on it became obvious there was no earning a spot on this team and as we got more frustrated/angry (not just about playing time, it was a whole big mess) she picked up on it. We still tried to keep it positive but eventually she was frustrated too, when her effort (and, frankly, skill level) made no difference. Once she was frustrated and angry too we put less priority on keeping it to ourselves. If your DD is happy, keep it to yourself IMO. If she truly is one of the weakest players then not playing her as much might be justified, and she can work and earn more play time if her coach is a good coach.