DD doesnt want buckets dad advice anymore

I think my DD and I are at a new phase in her pitching journey. She's about to turn 15 and she doesnt want anything to do with Bucket Dad's critiques. Im mostly fine with it. Her focus the last month has really improved and her pitching shows it. She's starting to take total responsibility for her pitching. She'll be at the high school and will have to work with the coaches and catcher's there with out my help. So we needed to take this step. Maybe Ill have more time to pick up my tennis game.

Its a kind of funny, I've always tried to follow the 5 pitch rule and mostly disciplined enough to do it. I think now I get one coaching suggestion every 60 pitches. She does like bucket dad catching, but bucket dad does get critiqued if he drops too many balls .

you're lucky. my DD's 14 and coach DAD needs to start to hush! i said i'm done with her at the end of this year, that's when she starts HS and as you mentioned, will need to work with the HS coaches and staff.
unfortunately, DD's not there yet. we're still working on a few things.

the good part is that from a list of 10 items steming from the hellow elbow era, it's now down to 2 with IR and BI. hopefully, in the months to come, we'll get to tackle those 2 remaiing items.

i got hit in the knee last weekend from her drop ball and the shin guards obviously didn't help. i told her she threw a bad drop. she retorted. you didn't catch it.
but i love those bucket catching sessions and would not trade them for anything even if we at times, argue.

My DD is 15 and we are in the same boat. The older she gets the less knowledgeable I get.....so my role has been relegated to sitting on a bucket catching with no feedback from me. DD's stance is that she has to be the one to make the adjustment. So I quietly catch for her. I wouldn't trade it for anything. I've told my wife that this whole process will go one of two ways........great father/DD memories playing many hours of catch or DD will have a lot of "therapeutic grist for the mill" when she gets older. LOL! My goal is the former after all she will be choosing my nursing home when that time comes.

been going through this with my dd. We did have a bit of a breakthrough tho. I told my dd I was ok with backing off and just catching for her or playing catch with her. However, if I was going to keep taking her to pitching lessons we would have to come to an agreement. I let her know it's ok if you just want to pitch and not change anything or change it on your in your own time. But, It makes no sense for me to pay a PC if your not going to make the changes, and in order to make the changes you will need help from me, either thru videoing or visually helping and cueing. I limit my cues to what PC has said and only work on what PC has said to work on. I'm not perfect, I will occasionally mention something else she's doing wrong and she will quickly remind me that's not what she's working on. That's when I tell her she's right and go back to what we are working on. It's only been a couple weeks, hope it stays like this! it's been good!


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Once my dd and I both decided that she knew far more about pitching then I did we enjoyed practice quite a bit more.

Softball scholar said:

She'll be at the high school and will have to work with the coaches and catcher's there with out my help. So we needed to take this step.

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That is what would scare me most! Most of us have seen self-proclaimed pitching experts who immediately teach bowling mechanics and wrist flicks. Given you are here on this forum, you likely see the great pitching information here. What you CAN do to HELP is find your dd a pitching coach that is at least close to the stuff advocated here.

I am generally allowed to critique my dd (soon to be 14u pitcher) in practices. I have learned not to critique in warmups before games. Game days are touchy days all the way around. My general practice critique is limited to too fast (change up), too slow ( fast ball), you are not hitting your spots, and your arm is kind of sideways. That ball gets to me way too fast to view anything more on the pitch. Well, plus I am not sure I give much more advice.

I only get away with too fast and too slow because we sometimes use a radar gun. Before the gun, she did not truly believe that I could tell a difference in speed of 2-3 mph. I like to think I generally can. The radar gun has been a great addition to practices and games.

If you can sit back and give positive reinforcement, it will be a great experience. No critiquing unless she asks. Just atta-girls when needed.