I've been thinking about writing this for a while...but recently I saw a list of "10 things you probably don't know about Danielle Lawrie" that made me think it was time.
Prominent on this list was the statement (I'm paraphrasing because I don't have the list in front of me) "at age 11 my coach told me to forget about pitching". Obviously I think it is fair to say that that coach was wrong. Ms. Lawrie is a great pitcher making a good living at what she does.
But it did remind me that often as adults we want to protect our kids from failure so we are often susceptible to not being as supportive of "the dream" as we should be. When strangers - even well-intentioned former players, big program coaches, etc. - tell us that "she should give up XYZ and work on ABC - she'll never good enough to play in college", we're selling our kids short.
I'm not saying not to be realistic. I'm not saying spend every extra family dollar on the dream. I'm saying as long as the kid wants to chase the dream and is willing to put in the work, even if it means facing the realization of failure somewhere down the road, we as parents should be "all in". And we need to find coaches/mentors who are willing to be "all in" too...and not just for money.
We only get to travel this road once. As many on this site have said, the time goes by so quickly.
No one (player, parent, coach) should be afraid to chase the dream.
Just one hopeful college bound DD's softball dad's opinion.
Prominent on this list was the statement (I'm paraphrasing because I don't have the list in front of me) "at age 11 my coach told me to forget about pitching". Obviously I think it is fair to say that that coach was wrong. Ms. Lawrie is a great pitcher making a good living at what she does.
But it did remind me that often as adults we want to protect our kids from failure so we are often susceptible to not being as supportive of "the dream" as we should be. When strangers - even well-intentioned former players, big program coaches, etc. - tell us that "she should give up XYZ and work on ABC - she'll never good enough to play in college", we're selling our kids short.
I'm not saying not to be realistic. I'm not saying spend every extra family dollar on the dream. I'm saying as long as the kid wants to chase the dream and is willing to put in the work, even if it means facing the realization of failure somewhere down the road, we as parents should be "all in". And we need to find coaches/mentors who are willing to be "all in" too...and not just for money.
We only get to travel this road once. As many on this site have said, the time goes by so quickly.
No one (player, parent, coach) should be afraid to chase the dream.
Just one hopeful college bound DD's softball dad's opinion.