We live in a populated area so you can play travel ball without traveling very far, it is a way to get like minded players and parents together.
She, and you at this age, need to enjoy softball. Some long weekends, some longer then others. 7 AM games on the weekend suck when your previous game was at 8 pm the previous night. I have routed for other Team sometimes.
It's rare but there are pitchers that are very fast. The best pitchers my DD has played against:
8u - top speed 46mph (now verballed to Stanford)
10u - top speed 57mph (faced her in semi at nationals)
12u - high 50's, great screwball (verballed to Arizona)
14u - low 60's (verballed to Arizona State University)
With that said, I have gunned dozens and dozens of pitchers at 14u & 16u SoCal tournaments and the average is around mid 50's.