Hey everyone, I'm new here but not to softball. I have been a AC for my 12u daughter's team for 3 years and in that time I've been dealing with a very angry head coach. (sorry if this is long but I need advice)
This is what I'm dealing with....
During practices he is in a constant state of barking. He constantly yells at the girls for the smallest of things. (We have lost 3 girls to parents who were tired of his behavior already.)
If a girl is not making eye contact with him during one of his rants the team is made to run to the fence and back.
If a girl is not swinging correctly, throwing correctly or running fast enough, instead of correcting her, he yells at her and I mean YELLS at her.
If practice is not going the way he wants he throws down whatever is in his hand and tells everyone everyone should just quit since they aren't here to play. Now this is the kicker...he yells at the girls to "have fun" after/during his rants. Because that is what we are here for is to "have fun". The girls are not having fun.
This Friday, before a game he was soft tossing to the girls and yelled at a AC to get another girl ready to hit, when that didn't happen fast enough for him, he threw the balls down, slammed the ball bucket down and said we are done and stormed off. This was where I had had it.
Later in the dugout during the game, he made reference to my daughter that she wasn't doing a good job behind the plate and wasn't getting the balls that were in the dirt. Mind you this was a new pitcher, her 2nd game at pitching so she's not that good yet. He then yelled at the top of his voice at my daughter who was in the field.. "Why can't you be a leader, catch those balls!"
Right then the switch was flicked and I lost it. I got in his face and told him to back off, quit yelling at the girls, get yourself together and calm down, I've had it with this behavior!"
After the complete "stunned" look on his face he walked away and was mostly silent the rest of the game.
I have not talked with him since and we have practice tonight. The other ACs are pretty spineless and afraid of him, why I have no idea. I think I'm going to get a tongue lashing tonight but I'm holding firm. I'm going to tell him
if he continues with this yelling and negative behavior I'm done and pulling my daughter from the team. She's already told me she's ready.
I'm afraid these girls are going to quit and not continue with the sport, he's ruining this game for them.
BTW this is just scratching the surface of this man's coaching issues.
Thoughts?
TW
This is what I'm dealing with....
During practices he is in a constant state of barking. He constantly yells at the girls for the smallest of things. (We have lost 3 girls to parents who were tired of his behavior already.)
If a girl is not making eye contact with him during one of his rants the team is made to run to the fence and back.
If a girl is not swinging correctly, throwing correctly or running fast enough, instead of correcting her, he yells at her and I mean YELLS at her.
If practice is not going the way he wants he throws down whatever is in his hand and tells everyone everyone should just quit since they aren't here to play. Now this is the kicker...he yells at the girls to "have fun" after/during his rants. Because that is what we are here for is to "have fun". The girls are not having fun.
This Friday, before a game he was soft tossing to the girls and yelled at a AC to get another girl ready to hit, when that didn't happen fast enough for him, he threw the balls down, slammed the ball bucket down and said we are done and stormed off. This was where I had had it.
Later in the dugout during the game, he made reference to my daughter that she wasn't doing a good job behind the plate and wasn't getting the balls that were in the dirt. Mind you this was a new pitcher, her 2nd game at pitching so she's not that good yet. He then yelled at the top of his voice at my daughter who was in the field.. "Why can't you be a leader, catch those balls!"
Right then the switch was flicked and I lost it. I got in his face and told him to back off, quit yelling at the girls, get yourself together and calm down, I've had it with this behavior!"
After the complete "stunned" look on his face he walked away and was mostly silent the rest of the game.
I have not talked with him since and we have practice tonight. The other ACs are pretty spineless and afraid of him, why I have no idea. I think I'm going to get a tongue lashing tonight but I'm holding firm. I'm going to tell him
if he continues with this yelling and negative behavior I'm done and pulling my daughter from the team. She's already told me she's ready.
I'm afraid these girls are going to quit and not continue with the sport, he's ruining this game for them.
BTW this is just scratching the surface of this man's coaching issues.
Thoughts?
TW