- Dec 19, 2008
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Team consists of mostly 14U eligable girls playing up in 16's and 18's. They are a great group of girls who truly love the game. They have been pretty successful. Not winning that many, but keeping the score close.
Now, the problem. The head coach is so negative and yells at the girls. He screams at his own daughter, and another girl that he kind of took under his wing. The other girls are afraid to make a mistake because of this. I'll give an example: this weekend the girls were playing in a single elimination tournament where on Sunday, if you lost, you go home. They are in the 7th inning, down 3-10, 2 outs, and we are last at bat. A 2 out rally, 8 run inning, and they win the game 11-10. One girl had 2 out of the park homers. Then, they lose the second game, but kept the score closer than they ever had against this team.
Team meeting afterwards - coach gets on them about making errors, and that we are finally hitting. Not one word to the girl about the 2 homers. Not one word to my daughter who had twisted her ankle and was swollen, and pitched both games because his daughter hurt her shoulder warming up that morninhg (but she seemed fine when batting). I was furious, but that was not the time, nor the place.
Since then, 2 girls have left the team - stating in e-mails to all the parents that it is because of this negativity and yelling at the girls.
Now, some of the parents want me and the assistant coach to take over. He and I coached half of these girls last fall in 3 tournaments and a competitive league, because half of the team was playing HS ball. We took 4th, 2nd, and 1st in the tourneys and 2nd in the travel league.
I want to do right for these girls. But, I also think taking over his position by force is a bit harsh. Either way, we lose some girls. If he stays, the 2 stay gone, and possibly a couple more. If he leaves, we lose his daughter and the other girl he is helping.
Has anyone been throught this before? I don't know what to do. Should I just take my daughter and find another team? HELP! Please!
Now, the problem. The head coach is so negative and yells at the girls. He screams at his own daughter, and another girl that he kind of took under his wing. The other girls are afraid to make a mistake because of this. I'll give an example: this weekend the girls were playing in a single elimination tournament where on Sunday, if you lost, you go home. They are in the 7th inning, down 3-10, 2 outs, and we are last at bat. A 2 out rally, 8 run inning, and they win the game 11-10. One girl had 2 out of the park homers. Then, they lose the second game, but kept the score closer than they ever had against this team.
Team meeting afterwards - coach gets on them about making errors, and that we are finally hitting. Not one word to the girl about the 2 homers. Not one word to my daughter who had twisted her ankle and was swollen, and pitched both games because his daughter hurt her shoulder warming up that morninhg (but she seemed fine when batting). I was furious, but that was not the time, nor the place.
Since then, 2 girls have left the team - stating in e-mails to all the parents that it is because of this negativity and yelling at the girls.
Now, some of the parents want me and the assistant coach to take over. He and I coached half of these girls last fall in 3 tournaments and a competitive league, because half of the team was playing HS ball. We took 4th, 2nd, and 1st in the tourneys and 2nd in the travel league.
I want to do right for these girls. But, I also think taking over his position by force is a bit harsh. Either way, we lose some girls. If he stays, the 2 stay gone, and possibly a couple more. If he leaves, we lose his daughter and the other girl he is helping.
Has anyone been throught this before? I don't know what to do. Should I just take my daughter and find another team? HELP! Please!