What would you say to the head of an organization?

My suggestion is to ride it out the best you can. Celebrate your DD's individual achievements and growth. Sit far from the other parents who bother you.

I completely understand your position. My DD's team makeup is very similar to yours - 1/3 good, 1/3 overmatched, 1/3 not invested. Routine plays are never routine. She's new to the team this year and we were led to believe they were very competitive. They are unlikely to win many or any games this year. We have one father and one grandpa who can be negative and outspoken but at least they don't swear!

Like your DD, mine is learning to play new positions and doing well. She is also becoming a much better hitter & runner. (Parent brag - SS & leadoff hitter)

We had a long talk in the car after the latest losses. She's frustrated with the team aspect but pleased with her personal growth. I did my best to encourage her to continue to improve herself and discussed areas she can improve upon.

I know the head of our organization wants competitive teams and this team was formed based (partially) on social bonds. I get the sense that next year's team will look much different. I am encouraging people I know with DD's who can play to tryout for next year. I personally know at least 5 kids still playing rec who are better than our current players.

I asked my DD if she heard parents/grandparents during games and she said she mostly tunes it out and rarely hears anything. I sometimes sit with the parents around the backstop and other times sit down the foul line if I want to watch the game in peace.

I have been banned by DD from sitting behind the backstop.

I do not yell instructions out to DD let alone other players. I do swear a little bit but quietly, I am well down the line. Don't sit by me if you do not like it but I do have nice canopy. Hear a few swear words and sit in shade or no shade and no swear words.

DD knows were I am at if she has any questions, does not happen very often. Wants a hug more then advice if things are going bad.

haven't read all post yet, but any org that makes multiple teams out of same age group due to large numbers at the same tryouts can be bad news. They will sometimes spread the talent to make 2 or 3 teams instead of taking the 12 strongest players and forming one team. have even seen some orgs make 1 strong team and make another cause some of the coaches family friends didn't make top team but wanted to find a home for them. What else they do is give the 2nd team 2 or 3 players that would have made the top team to help the 2nd team out. they just fill the sport with girls not as strong and figure they can use those girls as subs, but eventually it catches up with both teams.