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Jun 19, 2014
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Raleigh,NC
My husband thinks he can reinvent pitching mechanics. He said the best instructors are the ones who never pitched but have watched because they haven't learned any bad stuff. He goes on to say that you should use more shoulder, use a follow through because dd is stopping her pitch according to him but the part that got me was he said she must land on her toes and because her toes are not strong enough, she has no other choice but to keep moving forward. At this point, I bust out laughing. I know I shouldn't but I could not help it as dd is trying to make sense and responded with, "oh, I should look like a ballerina." Bad move on my part. He is pissed and looks at me and tells me, "you are the reason she sucks...you ruined her and now I have to try to find a way to fix it." I am shocked he said that and responded with, "you are the only one that thinks that." He then says, '"if she is so great, then why she don't have a D1 scholarship by now." I walked away but it made me think, I really should learn to keep my mouth shut and just grab some popcorn and watch. DD tells me later, "I know how to pitch but I just let him talk because it makes him feel better."
 

JAD

Feb 20, 2012
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Georgia
College softball broadcasting starts Thursday with Auburn vs. Oklahoma on ESPN. I suggest you watch or DVR the game and watch it with your husband focusing on the pitching mechanics. After that there are @ 600 games scheduled for broadcast this year.
 

osagedr

Canadian Fastpitch Dad
Oct 20, 2016
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My husband thinks he can reinvent pitching mechanics. He said the best instructors are the ones who never pitched but have watched because they haven't learned any bad stuff. He goes on to say that you should use more shoulder, use a follow through because dd is stopping her pitch according to him but the part that got me was he said she must land on her toes and because her toes are not strong enough, she has no other choice but to keep moving forward. At this point, I bust out laughing. I know I shouldn't but I could not help it as dd is trying to make sense and responded with, "oh, I should look like a ballerina." Bad move on my part. He is pissed and looks at me and tells me, "you are the reason she sucks...you ruined her and now I have to try to find a way to fix it." I am shocked he said that and responded with, "you are the only one that thinks that." He then says, '"if she is so great, then why she don't have a D1 scholarship by now." I walked away but it made me think, I really should learn to keep my mouth shut and just grab some popcorn and watch. DD tells me later, "I know how to pitch but I just let him talk because it makes him feel better."

Sounds like the kid knows how to handle him. IMO you should not stay out of it b/c she might need an ally to help her avoid getting led down the wrong path.

An an aside...if he really said "She sucks" that is really too bad. See if you can find a way to have him step back and realize the negative impacts he may be having on her. At the end of the day, it's about supporting her and realizing that this is all about building a person who will someday exist in a post-softball life.

Good luck!
 
Oct 11, 2010
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Chicago, IL
If he is interested he could buy HS coach a beer and have a great conversation. Please video conversion and put on here.
 
Jun 19, 2014
846
43
Raleigh,NC
I think hubby is stressing more than she is about high school tryouts. We were at the field when the school ball pitcher was also there pitching. She is good...probably about 3-4 more mph faster than dd. Her leg drive is strong. She is also about 6 inches taller and weighs about 40 more pounds. DD seems more accurate from what I saw but that doesn't mean much. This was the first time we saw the school ball pitcher pitch. I see it as a way to make dd work harder, hubby went into "need to fix mode".
 
Jun 19, 2014
846
43
Raleigh,NC
Sounds like the kid knows how to handle him. IMO you should not stay out of it b/c she might need an ally to help her avoid getting led down the wrong path.

An an aside...if he really said "She sucks" that is really too bad. See if you can find a way to have him step back and realize the negative impacts he may be having on her. At the end of the day, it's about supporting her and realizing that this is all about building a person who will someday exist in a post-softball life.

Good luck!

I think him saying that to her was wrong. He was upset with me not her. Besides, she has made great progress. Last camp she went to, the coaches came up to me and said she did really good. Last drill they did was to see how many strikes they could get...she got 7 out of 9 strikes. I have the stats from her last travel ball tournament:
WHIP 1.50
First Pitch Strikes-9
K's-4
Pretty solid numbers to me and a lot better than where she was a year before.

RPS for riseball-24
pitching speed-54 mph(started out 45 1 1/2 years ago).
She is 5'1 and weighs 110 pounds with 0% of getting taller...It is nearly impossible to hit 60 like husband thinks she should be at by now.
 
May 24, 2013
12,461
113
So Cal
"I know how to pitch but I just let him talk because it makes him feel better."

This made me literally LOL. Sounds like your DD already has a handle on things.

I hope your DH can eventually understand that there is a lot of territory between "sucks" and "great"...including "good". Not very many ever reach the "great" level.
 
Sep 29, 2008
1,398
63
Northeast Ohio
Actually the solution is pretty simple. Just ask him to demonstrate the full motion at real speed. If he can do it...maybe he knows how to teach it. If he can't...
 

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