My daughter started her freshman and sophomore year and received all-conference, all-district honors both years. She never had any trouble at all with Seniors in either of those years. None at all. Now that she is going in to her Junior Year the girls that are now Seniors are bullying her. I think that is because she is only one year younger than them but has always beat them out on the team for spots. It is pure jealousy. They single her out at every practice and try to get her to fail with fielding. She rarely does make an error during these practices and it just makes them target her more. There were threats made against her to kick her butt (they used the other word), they call her lude names and she is to the point she wants to quit HS softball. She is not a quitter, this is not her personality at all. The coach was informed by several anonymous calls from concerned parents and the whole team was sat down and talked to. The coach asked if anyone felt bullied. My daughter stood up and said that she did and told the coach what was going on. The coach had the audicity to lump my daughter in with the bullies and say they were all being childish! Called the victim of bullying childish. The threats have stopped but the name calling continues but is not so bad. Now they say things like "she thinks she is such a bad a**, look at her out there" in reference to a fielding drill. She is getting mentally tougher every day and has decided that she is not going to let these 2 girls ruin her chances of playing in college.
The thing that frustrates my the most is that both of these girls have just as much athletic ability as my daughter. There is absolutely no reason for them to be jealous of my daughter. If they would spend just half the time they worry about my daughter practicing softball, showing up for practice, showing up at competitive team practices, then they would be every bit as good, if not better than my daughter. They are really just hurting themselves and that saddens me. Also, when they target her in practices and they get a little group of followers to go along with them and they are all throwing balls at my daughter it actually gives her more practice and helps her to get better.
My concern is for my daughters mental well being. How long can one tolerate this treatment? Especially knowing now that the coaches think she is childish when she stands up for herself? What she did was anything but childish. She stood up in front of her peers and reported being bullied. No one said a word because some were afraid they would get bullied or didn't want to make waves with the coaches. I just don't know where to go from here because I don't want my daughter or myself labeled as trouble makers or complainers. I guess she will just have to deal with the fact that this happens and that it will make her a stronger person once its all said and done. I just don't want her thinking she has to be a door mat or that being talked to that way is ok. Where do I draw the line as a parent?