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There's a sophomore on the HS Varsity team who is also on my U16 LL team. I have been hearing from DD and another kid that this girl who was always kind of quiet gas turned into a complainer/Debbie downer. Whenever one if the other players asks her for help with the equipment she always blows them off. When another player is having trouble at bat or boots a ball in the field, she is quick to dump on her.
She (and probably her parents) resent the fact that she may have been better than one or two freshmen that made the varsity team last year and are playing in front of her. She complains that she only gets into play in the last inning if at all. When she gets to hit she's nervous and usuall strikes out and then blames it on the umpire. In the outfield she's usuall pretty good but hasn't looked good when she has been out there this season.
The team has pretty good chemistry otherwise. She's really irritating some of the players and while DD used to stand up for her, she dumps on DD now too and others who don't deserve it, so DD sees her as ungreatful and undeserving when there are better teammates playing on JV.
So my question is, in private, should I let the parents in on the poor teammate that their DD has become (or is becoming)? Should I talk to the kid about "servant leadership" and the importance of being a good teammate? Or should I just let it go and leave it for others to sort out?
If the coach finds out just how bad she is, I know she won't be on varsity again next year. I'm thinking if she realizes the magnitude of the problem she has created by trying to build herself up by cutting others down, it could save a lot if headaches down the road for everyone.
She (and probably her parents) resent the fact that she may have been better than one or two freshmen that made the varsity team last year and are playing in front of her. She complains that she only gets into play in the last inning if at all. When she gets to hit she's nervous and usuall strikes out and then blames it on the umpire. In the outfield she's usuall pretty good but hasn't looked good when she has been out there this season.
The team has pretty good chemistry otherwise. She's really irritating some of the players and while DD used to stand up for her, she dumps on DD now too and others who don't deserve it, so DD sees her as ungreatful and undeserving when there are better teammates playing on JV.
So my question is, in private, should I let the parents in on the poor teammate that their DD has become (or is becoming)? Should I talk to the kid about "servant leadership" and the importance of being a good teammate? Or should I just let it go and leave it for others to sort out?
If the coach finds out just how bad she is, I know she won't be on varsity again next year. I'm thinking if she realizes the magnitude of the problem she has created by trying to build herself up by cutting others down, it could save a lot if headaches down the road for everyone.