A little background first, and sorry for the long read.
My DD is 12U pitcher for a strong B level travel team. The team we have has played together since age 7. Two years ago we went as a whole with an outside travel coach starting a new 12U team. My DD pitched almost every inning unless it is a blowout.(really hard on her). They have rode her like a horse for the past two years.
Now my gripe. Over the winter, before our season started we got a commitment from another pitcher to relieve my DD and split innings/games with. We were really excited for this season. Last minute they decommitted and went their own way, we rode DD the whole summer. Two weeks ago we faced this other pitcher twice in a tournament. The first was tied 1-1 after 6 innings and went to international rule and we got beat. Fought our way back to championship game against the same team and DD was worn down from pitching 4 games that day. We lost in championship. This past weekend the other pitcher's team was not playing and our coach asked them to guest on our team. I was excited to have her. Game one pool play my DD starts and pitches 2 inning then they bring in other pitcher, no bid deal. Game two pool play they start new pitcher and bring in my DD after 2 innings, things great. Sunday tournament: Game one new girl starts and pitches 3 innings, game out of hand up 13-0, then bring in DD to pitch last inning (token inning that meant nothing). Game two semi's didn't even warm my DD up and started guest pitcher. Brought DD in fifth inning up 9-0 to pitch last inning (token inning that meant nothing). DD shoulder hurt from not getting any warm up prior to pitching. I told assistant to never let HC put her in without proper warm up again. Championship game, you guest it, new pitcher started and pitched complete game. We won the tournament.
It was not just the lack of pitching. The HC could not have belittled my DD any more if he was trying to. He ogled every pich guest threw. Making comment after comment in front of my DD how we have never had a pitcher like this. Bragging to every coach and parent that would listen. My DD was furious when we left the field. My DD does not have as much speed as the guest, not many in the state do, she is a very good pitcher, but DD holds her own against anyone in the state. Well known against everyone we play. I could not be more proud of DD, but this past weekend felt like a slap in the face from HC.
I have not said anything to HC, waiting the day to let emotions settle. Not sure how to react, or if I should at all. I want DD to continue with these girls but lost all respect for HC. DD does not want to play for HC ever again. Should I just swallow my pride and move to outfield to watch from now on? This team has not been blown out all year and has been right with some very good teams.
This HC has built a reputation on my DD back and then treated her like a second rate pitcher. Again, how do I handle?
My DD is 12U pitcher for a strong B level travel team. The team we have has played together since age 7. Two years ago we went as a whole with an outside travel coach starting a new 12U team. My DD pitched almost every inning unless it is a blowout.(really hard on her). They have rode her like a horse for the past two years.
Now my gripe. Over the winter, before our season started we got a commitment from another pitcher to relieve my DD and split innings/games with. We were really excited for this season. Last minute they decommitted and went their own way, we rode DD the whole summer. Two weeks ago we faced this other pitcher twice in a tournament. The first was tied 1-1 after 6 innings and went to international rule and we got beat. Fought our way back to championship game against the same team and DD was worn down from pitching 4 games that day. We lost in championship. This past weekend the other pitcher's team was not playing and our coach asked them to guest on our team. I was excited to have her. Game one pool play my DD starts and pitches 2 inning then they bring in other pitcher, no bid deal. Game two pool play they start new pitcher and bring in my DD after 2 innings, things great. Sunday tournament: Game one new girl starts and pitches 3 innings, game out of hand up 13-0, then bring in DD to pitch last inning (token inning that meant nothing). Game two semi's didn't even warm my DD up and started guest pitcher. Brought DD in fifth inning up 9-0 to pitch last inning (token inning that meant nothing). DD shoulder hurt from not getting any warm up prior to pitching. I told assistant to never let HC put her in without proper warm up again. Championship game, you guest it, new pitcher started and pitched complete game. We won the tournament.
It was not just the lack of pitching. The HC could not have belittled my DD any more if he was trying to. He ogled every pich guest threw. Making comment after comment in front of my DD how we have never had a pitcher like this. Bragging to every coach and parent that would listen. My DD was furious when we left the field. My DD does not have as much speed as the guest, not many in the state do, she is a very good pitcher, but DD holds her own against anyone in the state. Well known against everyone we play. I could not be more proud of DD, but this past weekend felt like a slap in the face from HC.
I have not said anything to HC, waiting the day to let emotions settle. Not sure how to react, or if I should at all. I want DD to continue with these girls but lost all respect for HC. DD does not want to play for HC ever again. Should I just swallow my pride and move to outfield to watch from now on? This team has not been blown out all year and has been right with some very good teams.
This HC has built a reputation on my DD back and then treated her like a second rate pitcher. Again, how do I handle?