I think almost all of our DDs go through the 'want to be a great player but won't put the effort into it' stage. Frustrating as heck, until you realize it is their life, not yours.
Wow. Our AD and/or his secretary do this electronically. Each student athlete has their grades called up and the coach receives a copy of anyone ineligible. We don't know what the student has done but we do know what teacher it is and the grade. We are one of the school districts that now demand a "C" for participation. Many in our area only demand passing or a "D." Students that are ineligible are ineligible for a week. In 29 years of coaching, I have never had a student ineligible. I let them know where I stand on grades and my players know that I will get them a tutor or they can stay late for that class after school if they have to. Student comes first in student athlete.
thanks for the updates.
to me it all sounds like your softball relationship has degraded into something DD no longer enjoys, for whatever reason(s).
the positive updates seem to be the result of her working with a coach who is not her dad, for the most part.
This could result from many things. I think most Dads and DDs all experience this to some degree.
Nobody's fault... but it seems evident that there is some "static" between you.
It may be advisable to have her work-out exclusively with external coaches and players for the foreseeable future?
Just a suggestion. A hard one, I know. If she plays school ball you are the coach - no getting around that one.
Continue with the private lessons, and really don't push her to practice at all for a while;
and see if she starts to ask you? Sounds like you are already leaning in that direction anyway...
Our AD can look up the grades online. They do it this way because they want the kids to be responsible for handling it. My son played flag football in the fall and they had to forefeit a game because too many players didn't turn their forms in.
BuckeyGuy, I don't know your dd so keep that in mind. There are some players who think that they are doing their best and yet, know that they are struggling with some phase of the game. So, they try to figure it out on their own but give the impression that either they aren't hard chargers or don't care. The problem then is when they are criticized or, in some cases, not criticized but feel that they are, they shutdown or get angry. It doesn't mean that they don't love the game and don't want to play. That light that goes off for others hasn't yet for them and they know it. IMO, it will go off. I thought of that when you said that your dd hit the heck out of the ball and then wanted to talk about it on the ride home. Anyway, and again, I don't know your dd and so thought I would put this out there. BTW, for many of these type players the struggle of "getting it" makes it so much better when they do get it.
Forgive me if this has been mentioned (I only read the last few pages)....does your DD ever take time off from softball...or is it a 12-month routine? There is tons of value and health benefits (mental & physical) from taking some time off. Taking time off also provides the opportunity for ALL our DD's to experience the excitement of a new season approaching. She might be missing the excitement to play because it never ends....it has become a job. Just a few thoughts to consider.
Thanks,
T