- Jan 9, 2015
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This is missing some insight as to how the between inning conversations began. Pitcher induced? Did the coach ask her to go to her pitching coach? Did Mom/Dad flag her over to talk? If was anything but obsessive parental behavior I say what a shame.
Passing on a potential good pitcher simply because she was seeking to improve her performance between innings? Aren't pitchers told to told to go out the dug out and work on something between innings if they need to? If she was talking to anyone but Mom or Dad would it have been ok then?
If anyone knows DD's tendencies, it would be me. No one has caught her for as long as I have through all the stages of her pitching career. Would I go run to the dugout between innings and helicopter, of course not. Would I help DD if she came to me between innings and asked for help, you bet.
Personally, I'm getting tired of hearing that the parents shouldn't do anything but give a ride to the ball park and cheer. I realize that like any person, some people can make life miserable, but this could be a coach just as easily as a parent. The negative mojo towards parents is ridiculous. Sometimes coaches need to ask themselves if they are the problem instead of immediately labeling someone as "that parent".
Again, parents are missing the point here. Let the control go. I know it is hard. I have been there. You want to help your DD. You've seen her throw that drop ball 10,000 times and hit your glove. You know how to fix it. Your DD would be better served with you taking notes that you can discuss about her pitching performance once you were at home(or videotaping her for later). It is okay for her to have an off day in the circle. It is just one game. So what if they lose because you didn't give her an adjustment to make.
This is your DD journey, not yours. Let her play the game. Let her coaches coach. Let her make mistakes. Be a loving parent on the car ride home, and talk corrections later in the evening or the next day.
What would you do if your DD was in debate and she was struggling? Would you stand up in the middle of the debate and walk up front to give her pointers while the other person was talking?