Some of these umpires like to show their authority. This happened to us three years ago. The umpire screamed at one of our girls and myself as a coach thought it was very inappropriate. What recourse do we have other than to put him in his place. Than plan was to throw a high fastball and the catcher miss it. The catcher would not do it. Some of these umpires must gave been picked on in high school. We show great respect to the umpires but some are just out of hand.
You're damn lucky the catcher was a better person - and more mature - than you were. Feel free to let everyone know where you coach since you're apparently so proud of even thinking about being such a punk. Ever umpired? Feel free to grab a mask and get behind the plate anytime, tough guy.